wife use to sleep with me and another guy while dating (marriages, women)
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OH MY GOD! Courting? What are you people 90? If you ask me it's kinda hot, she was playing the field, chose you. Good job buddy! Cheating on her now? Are you stupid? That was 20 effing years ago, and who cares? Unless she is down to swing, or deceitful now, no need to cheat (unless she is a cold fish, but that's a whole nother thread.) Finally counseling? For something that happened 20 years ago? Are you trying to make the OP into the biggest Mod cut.on the planet? Drink a beer, have a good laugh, and move the eff on please. 20 years ago man!
Last edited by PJSaturn; 09-02-2014 at 06:42 PM..
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There is no right or wrong option to this situation.
I agree it is childish and stupid and not worth my 21 year marriage
I agree we were not exclusive but she made it seem she wasnot with anyone
I agree I have the right to pissed, shocked, and surprise
Most guys at 19 would only care about getting sex. I am notmost guys. I have not interest in sharing a girl for sex. She should have toldme the situation and let me make a decision
At the end of the day I am not leaving my wife over this. Iwas just looking for options
Dumb move was on her part in divulging such info this far into the marriage. Just asinine IMO.
What did she achieve but put doubt her own marriage.
Or maybe the dumb move was her being misleading instead of upfront and honest in the first place, one could even argue that the dumber move was her sleeping with one while going through the motions with the other.
I am seeing a reocurring theme here. It seems rather than be more careful of decisions and actions, people would rather make bad decisions and then lie and hide them.
I keep on seeing comments like ''don't ask'', ''don't tell'' but no one questions why a person even acted in such a way or discourages such acts, all they are concerned about is getting away and evading possible consequences.
People should be honest and give the other person the chance to make a decision. So many here are too busy advising the cake eater to hide the crumbs so they can eat it without the consequences while they fool the waiter into thinking he's the only meal.
OH MY GOD! Courting? What are you people 90? If you ask me it's kinda hot, she was playing the field, chose you. Good job buddy! Cheating on her now? Are you stupid? That was 20 effing years ago, and who cares? Unless she is down to swing, or deceitful now, no need to cheat (unless she is a cold fish, but that's a whole nother thread.) Finally counseling? For something that happened 20 years ago? Are you trying to make the OP into the biggest [Snip.] on the planet? Drink a beer, have a good laugh, and move the eff on please. 20 years ago man!
Also are people naïve enough to think that no one in any bridal party has ever been with the bride or groom? Hell my best man dated my now wife. He actually set us up. According to some of you people this clearly means they are still doing it, and everyone is an a hole.
First off I have been happy married for 21 years; my wife is the love of my life, I am 43 she is 42. When we started dating 23 years ago she said she was single. Just found out she was but had a sex buddy for about a year and she was still sleeping with him while I was courting her and she said she still slept with him for about a month after we had sex. She even had sex with us on back to back days. I know it was a long time ago but it does hurt knowing I took her on dates but the other guy got the sex. And it does discuss me knowing I got sloppy seconds.
How would you feel about this?
I'd let it go. Water under the bridge.
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