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I find these verbose descriptions of how they find a certain race, height, weight, (insert another physical characteristic here) unappealing etc. to be very offensive and racist..
And..?
It's best to go ahead and get it out of the way! I openly state my preferences too just so the ones who I *KNOW* I will not be into won't even bother wasting my time.
I don't agree that there's a double standard, and I don't think there's a problem with anyone stating their preferences and being honest and forward when they know what they want.
For example:
I want a 6'5 heavyset guy who isn't afraid of his body and facial hair and who's sensitive to my emotional needs and quarks and shares common interests and goals. Heavyset, not obese. [No wiry skinny men, no men under 6'0.]
Can you imagine how guys get angry about my preference? What double standard? There are always people offended by one's personal preference no matter the gender. Haters gonna hate. They just mad because they're excluded, instead of them just finding someone who wants them.
I don't agree that there's a double standard, and I don't think there's a problem with anyone stating their preferences and being honest and forward when they know what they want.
For example:
I want a 6'5 heavyset guy who isn't afraid of his body and facial hair and who's sensitive to my emotional needs and quarks and shares common interests and goals. Heavyset, not obese. [No wiry skinny men, no men under 6'0.]
Can you imagine how guys get angry about my preference? What double standard? There are always people offended by one's personal preference no matter the gender. Haters gonna hate. They just mad because they're excluded, instead of them just finding someone who wants them.
It doesn't feel good to be told that you have a certain quality that someone else finds unattractive, especially if you find that person attractive. Maybe you're so secure that being dismissed as undesirable doesn't bother you but everyone doesn't share that luxury. I take that into consideration and always aim to be as diplomatic as possible.
It all comes down to how much you care about other's feelings. I care a great deal and prefer not to offend people when it isn't necessary.
It doesn't feel good to be told that you have a certain quality that someone else finds unattractive, especially if you find that person attractive. Maybe you're so secure that being dismissed as undesirable doesn't bother you but everyone doesn't share that luxury. I take that into consideration and always aim to be as diplomatic as possible.
It all comes down to how much you care about other's feelings. I care a great deal and prefer not to offend people when it isn't necessary.
Why does it offend you so much that someone doesn't want what you have to offer? Newsflash: not everyone does. It doesn't necessarily mean they think there is something wrong with you, just that they aren't attracted to you.
Why does it offend you so much that someone doesn't want what you have to offer? Newsflash: not everyone does. It doesn't necessarily mean they think there is something wrong with you, just that they aren't attracted to you.
Why put so much value in what a stranger thinks?
Speaking personally, I am no longer bothered by seeing that a person isn't attracted to a quality I have. I used to be put off by dating profiles that would say "No Blacks", but the more experience I gained the more I realized that any person not interested in black men doesn't have the qualities I'm looking for anyway.
As for me, I do not bluntly state what physical qualities I am unattracted to. It's not my style.
Speaking personally, I am no longer bothered by seeing that a person isn't attracted to a quality I have. I used to be put off by dating profiles that would say "No Blacks", but the more experience I gained the more I realized that any person not interested in black men doesn't have the qualities I'm looking for anyway.
As for me, I do not bluntly state what physical qualities I am unattracted to. It's not my style.
For me, the only absolute would be that I will not date a smoker, so it's not mine either.
For me, the only absolute would be that I will not date a smoker, so it's not mine either.
That's one in particular that I don't see how anyone could get offended about. Smoking is a choice after all.
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