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It's very simple. These are the common problems I see
For women
1: Getting involved with the wrong guys. They always seem to find the guys who don't want a relationship, or always want sex only. I can assure you, all guys are not like this, and when a woman finds these type of guys consistently, it is because they pick them.
2: They expect more than they offer. I know a ton of single, out of shape moms with little to no income who only want to date fit, in shape, well rounded, single guys with a good career. Then they end up running into problem number 1, because that guy might have sex with them, but he can do better when it comes to a real relationship.
For men
1) They don't put themselves out there, they're afraid of women or otherwise don't socialize with women in a normal way. From the POV of these guys, women (especially good-looking ones) may as well be from the planet Venus. They don't seem to realize that treating women as if they are some foreign species is putting them on a pedestal.
2) They try too hard and overthink things. Guys in this group often grow bitter and angry, especially when they notice other guys who they deem "lesser" than themselves landing that hot brunette. Many of them focus too much on trying to "impress" the woman (that may be partly the fault of society and media).
Having sex every single week with 9 different women over the course of a couple years is a bit of a stretch for my juvenile reproductive system. I don't want to run out of juice so fast .
DATE 101 Introduction to women/men
DATE 120 Intro to kissing
DATE 160 Intro to body language
DATE 180 Appropriate conversation
DATE 200 Dating ethics
DATE 220 Intermediate Physical Interactions (IPI)
DATE 280 Buying presents
1: Be someone your are not to attract the girls "you" want
2: Invest the time and money needed to get her emotionally attached to you.
3: Show penis as much as possible to inflate your own ego and have her ready to pounce.
4: Initiate sex as much as possible, it's your only goal involving females in your life.
6: Turn heel about a year in and start being yourself.
7: Dump her when she starts objecting to your new found "inner man"
8: Repeat process with new girl, but always keep the other involved "just enough" in your life incase of "emergencies"
Wait....you're telling me his ISNT how it works?!?
Last edited by rego00123; 09-07-2014 at 11:29 AM..
Here's your first faculty member, OP. Do university students organize "free universities" anymore? Where people can teach all manner of life skills, pastimes, pop psych workshops, etc.? NYC has something like that, that's independent of universities. This would be PERFECT for that, and you'd end up making good money, too. Team-teaching, like pairing up with rbohm, here, is a good way to go.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 09-07-2014 at 11:48 AM..
I've been mentioning this deprivation of the fundamentals of a healthy relationship for a few years now, and I agree with you. Many people grow up seeing dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships and that's what they emulate in their own. They think it's manly and admirable to yell expletives at women, and the girls grow to accept it as proper, too; the *******, hoes, ass and ******* dynamic.
And then there are those who just don't know how to communicate, how to know whether a woman is interested, how to cope with rejection and the prospect of loss, when to escalate, when to part ways, how to go with what you enjoy and avoiding what isn't contributing to mutual growth.
Since everyone's giving their proposed curriculum, here's mine for building healthy self-worth and healthy relationships with others:
- Effective Communication
- Self Esteem and Confidence
- Meaningful Interaction Practicum
- Sociology
- General Psychology
- Abnormal Psychology
- Independent Study Project: Extroverts, Introverts and Perverts
- Intergender Friendship Practicum: Just Friends or More?
- Dating and Courtship in the Age of Interactive Technology
- Commitment and Conflict Resolution
- Mingling Practicum: Lock and Key parties, speed dating pre-dating, and meetups
- Cohabitation, Family Law and Marriage
I think some of that type of thing has been institutionalized/corporatized by orgs that turned it into a business. Seattle has one called something like "Discover U". I forget what NYC's is called, but it's huge.
Or, you could make friends with women, then date them.
This is true. What this is about is simply getting to know women in some kind of neutral context, first, as through some kind of shared activities (a strategy so often recommended on this forum). It's not about pretending to be a friend. It's just about casually getting to know someone. Then if you decide they intrigue you, you ask them for some one-on-one time, like for coffee, lunch, a day at the beach, whatever. Getting to know women through classes, volunteering, playing soccer with them, or taking a workshop with them, won't put you in the friend zone. It won't make anyone angry. This does work.
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