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Old 09-08-2014, 12:17 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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I know I'm starting a lot of threads; But this topic has been bugging me all day and I need genuine answers. In some of the groups I have joined at my school, none of these guys approach girls at all. Hell, I've seen them flat out ignore women when they talk to them. Also, going by what some of my friends say they'd rather be alone forever and opt out than endure another woman rejecting them. So, these guys just stay alone and when I mean stay alone I mean they have no girlfriend and not a single female friend. They claim they're happy this way but can a man stay single all his life and be happy. Are these guys just deluding themselves?
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:19 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Some people can. Some people can't.

I have no doubt there have been some truly enlightened monks that have remained celibate their entire lives and have been happy souls.
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:19 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Happiness is a choice, so sure, anyone can choose to be happy at any time, in any situation.

Look, you are sooooo young and you seem to be wasting so much time on all these questions that only have subjective answers and don't really impact or apply to you at all. Dude, consider getting off the computer awhile and into some real life activity, you'll feel so much better
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:21 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Some people can. Some people can't.

I have no doubt there have been some truly enlightened monks that have remained celibate their entire lives and have been happy souls.
I always wondered how they did that.
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:22 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Happiness is a choice, so sure, anyone can choose to be happy at any time, in any situation.

Look, you are sooooo young and you seem to be wasting so much time on all these questions that only have subjective answers and don't really impact or apply to you at all. Dude, consider getting off the computer awhile and into some real life activity, you'll feel so much better
I'm actually taking a break from class and getting lunch with my girlfriend. But ok...
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:23 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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I think the only people who can answer that are those men.
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:24 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Someone else started a thread about this a while ago. I want to say it was you but I am probably wrong.

Yes someone can remain single for the rest of their lives and be happy, if that is what they truly want.

As far as your friends go, they don't realize that finding/getting love means they have to take the pain and rejection that sometimes comes in the process of getting it. They have an unrealistic view of relationships viewing the actually relationship as a prize when in reality that is not the case all. Relationships have their ups and downs as well.

Staying single out of fear of rejection is not healthy, and your friends seem to just be suppressing the fact that they really do want to have someone to spend time with eventually. I do believe that your entire life should not revolve around getting into a relationship or make it your prime objective in life. Putting yourself first and making sure you are in the right frame of mind is very essential to a healthy relationship.

I know a few people who are very happy single, because they enjoy their alone time which I believe is very admirable.
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:24 PM
 
Location: SacTown
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It's gotten that bad for you huh. Don't worry the internet will be around awhile. All a man needs is porn food shelter.
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:25 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Someone else started a thread about this a while ago. I want to say it was you but I am probably wrong.

Yes someone can remain single for the rest of their lives and be happy, if that is what they truly want.

As far as your friends go, they don't realize that finding/getting love means they have to take the pain and rejection that sometimes comes in the process of getting it. They have an unrealistic view of relationships viewing the actually relationship as a prize when in reality that is not the case all. Relationships have their ups and downs as well.

Staying single out of fear of rejection is not healthy, and your friends seem to just be suppressing the fact that they really do want to have someone to spend time with eventually. I do believe that your entire life should not revolve around getting to a relationship or make it your prime objective in life. Putting yourself first and making sure you are in the right frame of mind is very essential to a healthy relationship.

I know a few people who are very happy single, because they enjoy their alone time which I believe is very admirable.
Lol I believe I did. I'm just a concerned friend that's all.
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Old 09-08-2014, 12:27 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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It's gotten that bad for you huh. Don't worry the internet will be around awhile. All a man needs is porn food shelter.
Once upon time, yes it was this bad. Now, not so much.
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