The New Flame Diaries (dates, movies, girlfriends, guy)
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Your new flame invites you, a few dates down the line, into their home and you notice that they have tens of filled out journal books.
Question 1: Do you respect their privacy?
Question 2: If you don't, would their understandable personal notes be a justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
Question 3: If you don't and their personal notes are not understandable (readable but written in either an unreferenced abstract or code) would that be a justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
Question 4: If you don't.....you find they are in the habit of scrap booking (ie, pasting images) their notes. Would that be justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
As to what kind of images, say mostly media such TV/Movies/magazines such as (they are all safe for work):
Your new flame invites you, a few dates down the line, into their home and you notice that they have tens of filled out journal books.
Question 1: Do you respect their privacy?
Question 2: If you don't, would their understandable personal notes be a justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
Question 3: If you don't and their personal notes are not understandable (readable but written in either an unreferenced abstract or code) would that be a justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
Question 4: If you don't.....you find they are in the habit of scrap booking (ie, pasting images) their notes. Would that be justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
As to what kind of images, say mostly media such TV/Movies/magazines such as (they are all safe for work):
I don't think there is anything wrong with journaling. I would respect t heir privacy bcs I would expect them to respect mine.
However, if I opened one up, not knowing it was a journal, but discovering it was a journal...
Depends on the content, I guess. If it were creepy, yeah, I guess I'd make a run for it. Those images are weird. Why would anyone scrapbook them? Scrapbooking a vacation, or mementos is one thing. But random media images? It'd make me question their mental stability.
I would question in for a topic starter. Yeah, that's pretty much it.
Well, funny you should mention that.
Of my dance girlfriends, most of them don't keep diaries. One doesn't do it because she couldn't keep up with them but another got out of the habit of doing such because her SO at the time (she may have said husband but at any rate, once said and I learned it was not to be asked again) was reading them against her wishes.
As it is, I have kept them since right before the turn of the century. I wished I had kept them earlier.....but it would have been impossible when I was in college or the Navy. I had too many less than friends who would have stolen them.
So, yes, now that I thought of it this morning, it is a question that I have learned to ask.
BESIDES, I was the one who asked about how others felt of background checks done on people. In a way, this is just another kind......a more invasive, devious kind.
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Originally Posted by chrissycs
.....Those images are weird. Why would anyone scrapbook them? Scrapbooking a vacation, or mementos is one thing. But random media images? It'd make me question their mental stability.
Errrr, not really. They are a trait I learned in theater classes. One scrap books to reflect the feelings of what they are writing.
For example, the prof who taught me that once made me so angry about something that I was clenching my fists....but I had to remind myself that I was trying to be a professional and let it go. I could not, however, find the picture I wanted to find, Bond with his gun to John Rhys Davies head in "The Living Daylights", where his character is telling Bond, "You are professional......,"
UNFORTUNATELY, fortunately, when said instructor graded our acting journals, she counted off on that picture because it didn't make any sense to what I had written.....to her.....but all things considered, it is probably just as well that it didn't.
Last edited by TamaraSavannah; 09-12-2014 at 07:13 AM..
Your new flame invites you, a few dates down the line, into their home and you notice that they have tens of filled out journal books.
Question 1: Do you respect their privacy?
Question 2: If you don't, would their understandable personal notes be a justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
Question 3: If you don't and their personal notes are not understandable (readable but written in either an unreferenced abstract or code) would that be a justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
Question 4: If you don't.....you find they are in the habit of scrap booking (ie, pasting images) their notes. Would that be justifiable reason, to you, to stay or go?
As to what kind of images, say mostly media such TV/Movies/magazines such as (they are all safe for work):
but not self imagery that would make Himmler flinch.......I'd run at that, too!
If I read someone's journal, I should be prepared for ANYthing i might find but also for the fact that I would not be able to bring it up for discussion without revealing that I snooped.
This is about a decision I had to make and I was contemplating "And then, what afterwards, what comes after that?". It's not a direct link picture but rather a reference to that episode where Garak tells Dax that after they collapse the wormhole, they really won't have to worry about what comes next.
As for someone reading your scrapbook journal, I don't think they would be able to tell what is going on anyway. "Diesel submarines" means "dieting"?? It only makes sense to you.
I've never known a guy to be a faithful journaler, but in general I think it is fantastic. My grandmother has written in her diary daily for 80 years, a trait I envy. For Pete's sake, don't read them! They are not for you. The person who likened a diary to a medicine cabinet is right. Hands off.
^^this^^ if you cant respect another persons privacy, then why are you in a relationship?
if your curiosity about the journals is overwhelming, then first ask if you can read them. if they say no, then respect that.
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