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So I go to the mall a few times to shop for items every now and then. You meet people that are cool.
So one store I go to this sales associate helps me out with my style a bit, gets stuff in for me, helps a bit. He knows I am dating someone, or at least I mentioned it a few times, and he knows a few details about my job, my activities, etc. Just a cool guy.
He gave me his # one time (I've had other sales associates do this for business) but a few months ago he added me on Facebook. We're in the social media age. Cool.
So a few weeks ago he texts me 'Hey bud. Thought about ya today - hope you're doing good '. I responded and said hope he's doing well also, etc. I may have not seen him in six weeks which is normal.
Anyways I mention that I stopped by previously but he says "bummer, maybe we can hang out sometime if you want". I'm down I'm all for expanding my social circle.
The thing is that I think he is into me...a bit more than a friend. I can't confirm it but based on what I've seen on his Facebook I believe he is gay. I have NO problems with that and I have no problem with hanging out with him. In fact I would invite it. I just don't want to come off as offensive by assuming he is gay or into me.
But he does message me with "Hey hope your day went well " every now and then. I mentioned a tryout I did and he texted me wishing me luck and asking me if it went well. In person he just seems like a genuinely nice person.
So...I don't know if he is hitting on me or not lol. My girl thinks he is gay and said I should overtly say "My GIRLFRIEND...yadayada". What do I do?
Yes, drop a reference to the girlfriend a couple of times. It's the same thing women do to clarify a situation when they're not sure if a man is romantically interested. If he disappears or makes excuses why he doesn't want to hang out anymore, that's probably the reason.
So one store I go to this sales associate helps me out with my style a bit, gets stuff in for me, helps a bit. He knows I am dating someone, or at least I mentioned it a few times,
So...I don't know if he is hitting on me or not lol. My girl thinks he is gay and said I should overtly say "My GIRLFRIEND...yadayada". What do I do?
It sounds like he's hitting on you. In spite of you making it clear you had an SO. Sales staff aren't supposed to hit up the customer base, even for friendship, so he's already crossed a line.
Here's what you do. Next time he mentions hanging out, tell him you & your gf are going out for drinks Friday night, and ask him if he'd like to join you. Then stand back and see what happens.
So I go to the mall a few times to shop for items every now and then. You meet people that are cool.
So one store I go to this sales associate helps me out with my style a bit, gets stuff in for me, helps a bit. He knows I am dating someone, or at least I mentioned it a few times, and he knows a few details about my job, my activities, etc. Just a cool guy.
He gave me his # one time (I've had other sales associates do this for business) but a few months ago he added me on Facebook. We're in the social media age. Cool.
So a few weeks ago he texts me 'Hey bud. Thought about ya today - hope you're doing good '. I responded and said hope he's doing well also, etc. I may have not seen him in six weeks which is normal.
Anyways I mention that I stopped by previously but he says "bummer, maybe we can hang out sometime if you want". I'm down I'm all for expanding my social circle.
The thing is that I think he is into me...a bit more than a friend. I can't confirm it but based on what I've seen on his Facebook I believe he is gay. I have NO problems with that and I have no problem with hanging out with him. In fact I would invite it. I just don't want to come off as offensive by assuming he is gay or into me.
But he does message me with "Hey hope your day went well " every now and then. I mentioned a tryout I did and he texted me wishing me luck and asking me if it went well. In person he just seems like a genuinely nice person.
So...I don't know if he is hitting on me or not lol. My girl thinks he is gay and said I should overtly say "My GIRLFRIEND...yadayada". What do I do?
So what if he is gay and wants to hang out? I have "hung" out with customers that I worked with and made good friends and ....guess what I was not looking to "hit" on them. I just thought they were nice.
That is probably correct. I had forgotten about the U.S shortage of gay men right now so there is a campaign to turn straight men going on right now so beware!!!!!!
So what if he is gay and wants to hang out? I have "hung" out with customers that I worked with and made good friends and ....guess what I was not looking to "hit" on them. I just thought they were nice.
I don't mind hanging out with him at all. Actually he seems pretty cool.
I just want him to know my limits and one thing that would help me in this situation is knowing his intentions.
So I go to the mall a few times to shop for items every now and then. You meet people that are cool.
So one store I go to this sales associate helps me out with my style a bit, gets stuff in for me, helps a bit. He knows I am dating someone, or at least I mentioned it a few times, and he knows a few details about my job, my activities, etc. Just a cool guy.
He gave me his # one time (I've had other sales associates do this for business) but a few months ago he added me on Facebook. We're in the social media age. Cool.
So a few weeks ago he texts me 'Hey bud. Thought about ya today - hope you're doing good '. I responded and said hope he's doing well also, etc. I may have not seen him in six weeks which is normal.
Anyways I mention that I stopped by previously but he says "bummer, maybe we can hang out sometime if you want". I'm down I'm all for expanding my social circle.
The thing is that I think he is into me...a bit more than a friend. I can't confirm it but based on what I've seen on his Facebook I believe he is gay. I have NO problems with that and I have no problem with hanging out with him. In fact I would invite it. I just don't want to come off as offensive by assuming he is gay or into me.
But he does message me with "Hey hope your day went well " every now and then. I mentioned a tryout I did and he texted me wishing me luck and asking me if it went well. In person he just seems like a genuinely nice person.
So...I don't know if he is hitting on me or not lol. My girl thinks he is gay and said I should overtly say "My GIRLFRIEND...yadayada". What do I do?
He TOTALLY wants you!!
I'd probably say: "Cool. Can I bring my GF along? I'd love for you to meet her."
The dude needs to BACK OFF. He knows you're taken. Maybe he was hoping.. a little too much.
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'. I responded and said hope he's doing well also, etc. I may have not seen him in six weeks which is normal.
