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Stop being friends? Unload the estrogen of emotions and how you feel about him, etc etc before knowing how he feels? "Accidentally" get married and knocked up in Vegas one night? Keep the feelings secret and never speak until he says something first? Start dressing pretty and sexy? Make sexual innuendos and flirt? Arrange more personal time to spend together and hope for the sensational-but-unlikely-in-reality "I've loved you forever" romantic movie kiss out of the blue? Kill all other potential love interests in his circle?
Yes. Since this is considered to be a taboo and an endangerment to the boundaries in a non-romantic, genuinely caring intergender friendship, what are safe ways to do this?
Stop being friends? Unload the estrogen of emotions and how you feel about him, etc etc before knowing how he feels? "Accidentally" get married and knocked up in Vegas one night? Keep the feelings secret and never speak until he says something first? Start dressing pretty and sexy? Make sexual innuendos and flirt? Arrange more personal time to spend together and hope for the sensational-but-unlikely-in-reality "I've loved you forever" romantic movie kiss out of the blue? Kill all other potential love interests in his circle?
Do what?
I would only do this if the opposite sex friend was not involved in a relationship with someone else.
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So far all the people for whom I've had romantic feelings were either friends or acquaintances I met in daily life. To me that is the romantic and natural way to find love. Unfortunately, there is some incompatibility with my core personality (NOT a mental defect, mental illness, chemical imbalance, emotional issue or anything of that nature) that causes people to welcome my friendship but not anything further. For someone who doesn't have an incompatible personality, though, like I said, I think it is the romantic and natural way.
Let me give you a little encouragement first. Lots of guys will hang out with a woman friend, hoping that somehow she'll see how great he is and that they can become a lot more than friends.
I would agree. Don't let out till much later you've been carrying a torch for him for a long time. I know it sounds cliche, but maybe you could just have him over for dinner or go out to eat for what appears to be just a casual fun meal. Wear something a little sexy, but not over the top.. Have one drink too many, and then start flirting, touching him, cuddling up to him. You don't have to say anything. If he doesn't get the hint, he's got problems. Sometimes its easier to display how you feel in actions rather than words.
Btw, a girl did this to me in college and it worked. I got the hint.
Start flirting....begin to alter the dynamic of the relationship and see if he goes with it. If he seems to, then yes, make a move, such as a kiss or some obvious comment indicating attraction. Then play it by ear....he should be responding by then and there won't be need of some weird confession, but you will both come to some understanding (stay friends, date, etc).
I have no experience with this, so I'm just making this up .
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