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What do you mean "fit for dating"?
Do you mean working out, eating healthier, dressing differently, working on your self esteem, confidence, etc?
Why can't you just be you?
Why not do those things for yourself instead of trying to please everyone else all the time?
If you don't do it for you it won't last as long as you think it will.
What do you mean "fit for dating"?
Do you mean working out, eating healthier, dressing differently, working on your self esteem, confidence, etc?
Why can't you just be you?
Why not do those things for yourself instead of trying to please everyone else all the time?
If you don't do it for you it won't last as long as you think it will.
Yes, that plus social skills and humor.
Things like depression give you no motivation, things like despair gives you hopelessness.
What do you mean "fit for dating"?
Do you mean working out, eating healthier, dressing differently, working on your self esteem, confidence, etc?
Why can't you just be you?
Why not do those things for yourself instead of trying to please everyone else all the time?
If you don't do it for you it won't last as long as you think it will.
I think I have the same questions for you Hurricane. I am also willing to know what is that "Fit for dating"
This is me hurricane. I don't worry about people who give scores for the size for the height for the weight. I am always my self. I am 5'8" tall my size is 38- UK/AUS10,US6, there are enough men told me that I am way too slim for my height and some one asked me to eat bit more then he will like me. I am not going to gain weight or lose weight to satisfy some one else. Me being my self always. I eat healthy I run hour a day or some times stick with the gym but I do that for my self not for the men out there who wants to have a slim woman who they can carry on their shoulder. In short enjoy my life, I love being me why cannot you?
Things like depression give you no motivation, things like despair gives you hopelessness.
Depression can be treated professionally, the despair part I'm not sure how one gets to that point.
You really need to quit comparing yourself to other humans, you are you, you are not them, who they are is not someone you can be, you can only be you.
Until you accept yourself as you are I believe you will always feel unaccepted, awkward and hopeless.
No one can be a perfect anything because there is no perfect anything or anyone.
You can choose to accept you or you can choose to not accept you, either way it is your choice and your misery is yours to accept as being caused by you, there is no one else to blame.
Right. Like CSD said, you do it for you, because being healthy is good for you. Without the right motivation, your efforts will bomb. Once you get that straight, you set short-term goals for yourself. You don't think of it as a giant iceberg you have to tackle. You chip away at it a few ice cubes at a time. So instead of thinking all the time about your ultimate goal, which may overwhelm you, you set a beginning goal, and you tell yourself, "Once I get to X weight (say: 15 lbs off), and see some definition in my muscles, I'll know I'm making progress, I've achieved at least that much." And when you reach that small goal, you take encouragement from that. You use that to power yourself to the next goal. And before you know it, you'll be halfway to your ultimate goal. So that encourages you to keep up the momentum.
See how that works? What it means is that every step of the way, you're pep-talking yourself. "Made the first goal--YEAH! I'm on a roll!" You psych yourself constantly. You keep up a positive inner chatter. You look for encouragement each week. "Added another 10 lbs. to my workout machines today! The progress is happening! OK, keep up the good work." You keep yourself on track that way. Boost yourself. Be your own coach and cheerleader.
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I think I have the same questions for you Hurricane. I am also willing to know what is that "Fit for dating"
This is me hurricane. I don't worry about people who give scores for the size for the height for the weight. I am always my self. I am 5'8" tall my size is 38- UK/AUS10,US6, there are enough men told me that I am way too slim for my height and some one asked me to eat bit more then he will like me. I am not going to gain weight or lose weight to satisfy some one else. Me being my self always. I eat healthy I run hour a day or some times stick with the gym but I do that for my self not for the men out there who wants to have a slim woman who they can carry on their shoulder. In short enjoy my life, I love being me why cannot you?
awesome, she said it all. Be yourself. don't change because someone told you to, do it for your own good. you can change the way you look, dress etc. but do it for yourself. Love the way you are.
Nope. If they can't see past my beer belly, they miss out on what's past my beer belly.
lol
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