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I don't need to ask anyone for personal information to have a discussion, if they volunteer it, fine... I think the only reason the age was being asked was to try to discredit him. I don't think the discussion needed to be cutting or attacking. If a man wants to give his opinion and it's not how someone else wants to live their life, just agree to disagree!!
Well asking his age was not a way to discredit him but more to understand why he posts the opinions he posts. Whatever. He is what he is. And it sounds like he knows all about having sex and nothing about making love. And that's just my personal observation from reading his posts. It's not an attack, just a simple observation.
And my powers of observation help me to discern what personalities I click best with. And that is how I ended up with a really terrific boyfriend and the good friends that I have. How else can you determine compatibility?
Well asking his age was not a way to discredit him but more to understand why he posts the opinions he posts. Whatever. He is what he is. And it sounds like he knows all about having sex and nothing about making love. And that's just my personal observation from reading his posts. It's not an attack, just a simple observation.
And my powers of observation help me to discern what personalities I click best with. And that is how I ended up with a really terrific boyfriend and the good friends that I have. How else can you determine compatibility?
That's nice you hold yourself in high esteem. You have a great life then and don't worry too much about words on a page on the internet!
Thats about what it seems like to me too miu. and I sure dont know how to fix it. We're actually talking about going separate ways.
I dont want a relationship where i am made to feel bad when i just want to be left alone.
Lots of good marriages break up over things like this .
Sounds like you have a good man although a little sefish . Most men are selfish ,it's in their genes and they can't help it . But why leave one selfish good man to be another man that may be selfish and no good . Do you ever get out together ?
I will tell you what worked for me, may not work for you though .
Soon as he comes in no matter how tired or hard a day it's been, be all dressed up for the romance . Every night for at least a week ask him for sex ! I bet you he will learn how it feels . At first he may even like or think you have quilty conscience or up to something . Just tell him no you want to make sure he gets his , ' loving ' .
This works I have tried and tested it . Also when I feel like I'm not gettting enough romance, I just stop acting interested and then he gets interested again .
Marriage is hard work sometimes , but not nearly as hard as being a single mother or dating men who only want one thing usually from a devorcee . Most people don't realize until it's tool late .
Lots of good marriages break up over things like this .
Sounds like you have a good man although a little sefish . Most men are selfish ,it's in their genes and they can't help it . But why leave one selfish good man to be another man that may be selfish and no good . Do you ever get out together ?
I don't think the selfishness of men come from being in their genes...what I think is, it's something that has been passed down from generation to generation which is a learned behavior, cuz the mother/women did everything for their husbands and sons....mothers actually make their son's lazy by teaching them, it's ok to sit back and do nothing while the mother works her butt off, cleaning, doing the laundry, shopping, cooking and working a full time job...
what I mean to say is, most mom's do not teach their son's to be self sufficent...they don't make them clean, or do their own laundry or ironing, or shopping or cooking....therefore, it is a learned behavior....I dunno? That is what I've seen...
I think as others have suggested here, that a couples sexual encounters should be between the couple, there is no set right and wrong amount of times per week....also, I would say this to the men, if your wives are not interested in having sex as much, then I would suggest that she is not being satisfied...therefore, your not playing enough...and making sure she is enjoying it as much as you are....remember, and forgive me for being so blunt, but that wham bam, thank you mame, just doesn't cut it...
also, if there is a conflict about this, you have to discuss this together and women, do not fear telling your mate what gives you pleasure and how you need it done...everyone is different...and sex is to be enjoyed not a task...and making love with the one you love is awesome when you consider the other one's feelings...
Ladies, if your pretending, that isn't fair to your husband, as it is an avoidence so that you don't have to tell him your needs. There is nothing wrong with discussing sex and both enjoying the explorations together....
And men, remember, your ideas of stress relief is sex...for a woman, after a long day of stress, picking up the kids...going home, making supper, stopping at the store, and now having to perform for hubby, is sometimes very difficult b/c women cannot drop the events that have happened during the day as easily. So, it is best to create romance time after the kids go to bed, remember, that is the only time your wife has time to unwind unless you help here from the time you get home...and if you do this together, everything is done and now you can play together...so, there is give and take here on both sides...not everyone is on the same plain at the same time...and it's impossible to do so...
Ok part venting part looking for what people think, both men and women.
Have been with together 6 years have 2 yr old. He wants sex almost everyday (gets it most days). Now occassionally, IM NOT IN THE MOOD, but god forbid I say no, then he sulks ALL day, choosing to be in a "ugly" mood, staring out the window, miserable look on his face. (this arguement comes up at least monthly)
Im quite sick of it actually. Hes just told me "im not doing this next year" I do evrything for this family and when i want love, i think i deserve it.
So let me ask this.... how many of you are made to feel guilty for not wanting sex? Now keep in mind he gets it AT LEAST 4 times a week if not more!!!!!
How would you handle your partner?
im 28 and a male i am currently in a similar situation but prior to this relationship i have never ever had this problem iv been with plenty of women belive me theres women who want to please their man and ones who want to be pleased and pamperd it starts with how they were brought up then leads to how much they truly care about a person its like this some women talk amoungst their groups of friends i did this and that for my man and another says i did this that and the other so they compete to see who can do more and have a happier husband then theirs the others who say girlfriend if hes not doing this or that dont give him nothing then you have another say i make him do this that and the other and if i dont feel like it i dont do it k point finnished
now lets say men and womens needs are differnt we would both agree men need attention and sex women need emotional ties importance appreciation and lots more so do men but i cant go on and on there are the basics but lets say a man has sex four days a week howabout we conversate with you four days a week howabout we tell you we love you four days a week and show you companionship then the other three days when your like whats up with him why cant he just be nice to me everyday well its an emotional thing right then youd get mad and be hurt because you didnt get treated the same its hard for a women to understand but if you think carfuly its a similar thing needs are needs its not him being selfish everyone has different levels of sex drive but for the most part men have about the same they like enjoy and want sex everyday as women like enjoy and want to be married to a loving caring husband
so it brings up the thing of lust and cheating some men will never be happy but the majority would be plenty happy with sex every day from the same women forever but when you have a women that doesnt meet your needs you look around porn strip clubs chatt rooms mistresses all those wouldnt exise if women met their needs because a man wouldnt have the craving desire burning inside him to be sexualy satisfied and so some men are strong they live silent and misserable some show missery with their actions some will tell you some will just go out and fix it their self but can you honestly say that if you were crying out for your needs and your man said i just dont feel like it whatever they were youd be happy think about it you sit there and turn his needs down and complain hes un happy so next time he doesnt meet your needs no compaining works both ways
a strong loving man wont go and cheat because he loves his women wemon say its not their job to have sex its a benifit so in other words a treat if your a good boy ill give you a treat but when i feel like you deserve it and when im ready to give it ok so if we feel saticefied well take care of your needs when we feel like it womenwant equal rights and want to feel important thats great take on your responcibilities if you wernt intended to enjoy sex there would have been any point in the clitoris it just wouldnt be there its only function is for pleasure dont you think its ironic that you have that what it is women want what then want because they feel inferior so they use whatever means possible to obtain power and importance whats the one thing all men want sex ok so thats said whats the one thing women dont do if they dont get their way sex now whos selfish women use sex as a wepon and a treat to get what they want its your body yes use it to make your relationship happy or lose it
divorce is more and more comon every day and wemon listening to their mans needs and filling them are becoming extinct look at nature monkeys grab whatever girl they want and mate when they feel like it does that mean we should arrest the male monkey and call him selfish lets just say we should call the cops cause he raped her right wait no thats just nature its a nateral thing for a man to crave a women and when he has a women he cant even enjoy its just pointless why have a car you cant drive well why put up with a womens emotions drama and needs if you cant fill yours a happy man will meet your needs a hurt man and unsaticfied will be miserable
if your mans giving you hints he has needs and your not meeting them dont compain when their met by someone else go look in the mirror and say whos fault was it who else could he have met that need with noone you were the only one he was supposed to have sex with but when he wanted it you denied him so remember he had no other option
to get back to my situation its similar but she is understanding my needs and im trying to meet her needs a happy women is more appt to meet your needs but a frustrated man doesnt meet womens needs very well all i can say is try harder there are sex stores for a reason go get a nice sex outfit and do somthing nice for your man then when hes finnished explain to him your needs and i guarentee he will work harded at meeting them
im 28 and a male i am currently in a similar situation but prior to this relationship i have never ever had this problem iv been with plenty of women belive me theres women who want to please their man and ones who want to be pleased and pamperd it starts with how they were brought up then leads to how much they truly care about a person its like this some women talk amoungst their groups of friends i did this and that for my man and another says i did this that and the other so they compete to see who can do more and have a happier husband then theirs the others who say girlfriend if hes not doing this or that dont give him nothing then you have another say i make him do this that and the other and if i dont feel like it i dont do it k point finnished <snip>
I really wanted to edit your whole post, but I just couldn't stomach it. Here is as far as I got:
I’m 28 and a male. I am currently in a similar situation, though prior to this relationship i have never ever had this problem. I’ve been with plenty of women; believe me there are women who want to please their man, and ones who want to be pleased and pampered. It starts with how they were brought up, then leads to how much they truly care about a person.
It’s like this: some women talk amongst their groups of friends bragging i did this and that for my man and another says i did this that and the other. They are competing to see who can do more and thus have a happier husband. Of course there’s the flip side, the others who say girlfriend if he’s not doing this or that don’t give him nothing. Then finally you have another who says I make him do this that and the other, and if I don’t feel like it, I don’t do it.
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