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I cant say I have ever heard any of my female friends say that although I believe this is true for most everyone as well as feeling they tend to not find people attractive now whom they would have considered attractive years ago.
Yeah, that's what happened to me too. Like I said with personality, I was willing to put up with brooding, moody men because I thought they were "deep." Well, I learned that's not true and won't tolerate it anymore.
Most people become more selective as they learn and mature I'd say--especially if you are looking for marriage or something committed. It's kind of silly to think people are selective when they are young and casually dating and when something important and meaningful like marriage comes along suddenly you don't care and you loosen up your standards. Maybe some people had good standards in the first place and don't need to change anything, but those who didn't tend to learn from experience and tighten things up. Of course, you still have your train wreck marriages waiting to happen too.
It's not a bad thing if people's tastes change... and it's not a bad thing is people's tastes don't change. And both women and men have chimed and and said "yes" and "no" for their own personal situations. It's just what a person finds attractive--there is no right or wrong to attraction and there is no good or bad if that changes over time.
I'm not a woman, but I could see it being true as a result of becoming less picky as they get older
The info I get from women is that they become more picky as they get older. Like, in their 20's, they're experimenting, and they learn from experience what works for them, they learn about themselves and what their needs are, too. So they use that info to inform their choices as they mature. It's easy to be flexible when you're young. But as you get to know yourself better, you're naturally gonna have better aim at what meets your needs best.
Something similar happens to dudes, too. Or to some of us, anyway. In the beginning, we tend to be all about looks. Then after being burned a few times, we (some of us, lol!) figure out that character--honesty, loyalty, emotional stability/maturity, etc., need to be high on the list. Some of us figure that out sooner than others.
But overall, everyone's going through a learning curve, and is adjusting their picker accordingly. With the result that choices are narrowing, they're becoming more fine-tuned. And that's a good thing. If your picker keeps aiming too broadly, or at the wrong criteria, you'll keep getting into trouble, and you'll wind up on City Data, dissing an entire gender, lol!
The info I get from women is that they become more picky as they get older. Like, in their 20's, they're experimenting, and they learn from experience what works for them, they learn about themselves and what their needs are, too. So they use that info to inform their choices as they mature. It's easy to be flexible when you're young. But as you get to know yourself better, you're naturally gonna have better aim at what meets your needs best.
Something similar happens to dudes, too. Or to some of us, anyway. In the beginning, we tend to be all about looks. Then after being burned a few times, we (some of us, lol!) figure out that character--honesty, loyalty, emotional stability/maturity, etc., need to be high on the list. Some of us figure that out sooner than others.
But overall, everyone's going through a learning curve, and is adjusting their picker accordingly. With the result that choices are narrowing, they're becoming more fine-tuned. And that's a good thing. If your picker keeps aiming too broadly, or at the wrong criteria, you'll keep getting into trouble, and you'll wind up on City Data, dissing an entire gender, lol!
I am more picky now with major things (he needs to have a job, reliable, nice, healthy...) and less picky with unimportant things like height, children, previous marriages. I am currently dating a guy who is quite shorter than me. I would have never even considered that 10 years ago. But he is awesome and I try to get over my insecurities.
Does anyone have the exact same taste they had when they were younger? I mean, I was a different person when I was young - I wouldn't expect to find the same things attractive. However, that doesn't mean that I have ever consciously though, "I tend to find guys attractive whom I wouldn't have considered years ago" or that I've heard anyone else say that either. As people mature and evolve, it would make sense that their tastes in friends, romantic partners, books, furniture, etc. would evolve, too. I wouldn't even say it's about being more picky or less picky - just more true to who you find yourself to be and where you want to go in life.
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