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I ran into someone I used to date last night at a nightclub. Here's a little background info. We dated for about 6 months. I broke it off because he acted very hot and cold. He also wasn't ready to commit. Anyway, he would still keep in touch after that. He wished me happy birthday and he texted me twice after that. However, the last 2 times that he texted me, I ignored him.
2 months later I run into him at the nightclub. He seemed to be having a good time but he was definitely acting weird around me. I asked him how his family was and he ignored me and changed the subject. Then I called him out and he got pissed. He told me "this isn't a conversation for the club". Then he blurted out that his mom has cancer and that he's no longer at his job. I told him that I'm sorry and I didn't know. Then he brought up the fact that I "played" him and completely ignored his texts from 2 months ago. I basically told him I don't want any friction between us. He says "Even if we're not together, I still want your input and opinion on certain things." Then he left. (sooooo dramatic lol)
I was hoping to still be cool with him and be on friendly terms, but I'm confused as to why he was so pissed at me. I really want to text him and let him know that it was good to see him. I don't know.
If you text him now, YOU will be the "hot and cold" one. Figure out what you want. Don't contact him out of guilt if you aren't really going to be a friend.
If you want to be a friend, apologize and be considerate from now on.
Really not much else to say that WMsn4Life and JustJulia haven't covered. You dumped him, ignored his texts, "called him out" at the club for not wanting to discuss his family. His mom has cancer. Leave the poor guy alone.
I ran into someone I used to date last night at a nightclub. Here's a little background info. We dated for about 6 months. I broke it off because he acted very hot and cold. He also wasn't ready to commit. Anyway, he would still keep in touch after that. He wished me happy birthday and he texted me twice after that. However, the last 2 times that he texted me, I ignored him.
2 months later I run into him at the nightclub. He seemed to be having a good time but he was definitely acting weird around me. I asked him how his family was and he ignored me and changed the subject. Then I called him out and he got pissed. He told me "this isn't a conversation for the club". Then he blurted out that his mom has cancer and that he's no longer at his job. I told him that I'm sorry and I didn't know. Then he brought up the fact that I "played" him and completely ignored his texts from 2 months ago. I basically told him I don't want any friction between us. He says "Even if we're not together, I still want your input and opinion on certain things." Then he left. (sooooo dramatic lol)
I was hoping to still be cool with him and be on friendly terms, but I'm confused as to why he was so pissed at me. I really want to text him and let him know that it was good to see him. I don't know.
What do you guys think?
You ignored his text from 2 months ago and you asked about his family in a night club.
Then you tell him you don't want any friction between you yet ^^^^^ (see above sentence).
I don't know really why he would think your actions are completely inappropriate, seriously what in the world is he thinking.....
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I broke it off because he acted very hot and cold...He also wasn't ready to commit. Anyway, he would still keep in touch after that. He wished me happy birthday and he texted me twice after that. However, the last 2 times that he texted me, I ignored him.
2 months later I run into him at the nightclub. He seemed to be having a good time but he was definitely acting weird around me. I asked him how his family was and he ignored me and changed the subject. Then I called him out and he got pissed. He told me "this isn't a conversation for the club". Then he blurted out that his mom has cancer and that he's no longer at his job. I told him that I'm sorry and I didn't know. Then he brought up the fact that I "played" him and completely ignored his texts from 2 months ago. I basically told him I don't want any friction between us. He says "Even if we're not together, I still want your input and opinion on certain things." Then he left. (sooooo dramatic lol)
I was hoping to still be cool with him and be on friendly terms, but I'm confused as to why he was so pissed at me. I really want to text him and let him know that it was good to see him. I don't know.
Why are you trying to send mixed signals???
I only seeing this play out one way, and it's one big circle jerk. You'll text him, he'll take it as you being interested, he'll pull away, you'll wonder what gives, and you'll be right back where you started.
I suspect that you really haven't moved on and you're hoping a text will lead to a second chance where things will be different. I would end that thought pattern right now if I were you.
I was hoping to still be cool with him and be on friendly terms, but I'm confused as to why he was so pissed at me. I really want to text him and let him know that it was good to see him. I don't know.
Friendly terms......Yeah sure.
Be glad that he didn't do like many other men would and invite you back to his place.....blow your back out....send you on your way....and never contact you again.
I ran into someone I used to date last night at a nightclub. Here's a little background info. We dated for about 6 months. I broke it off because he acted very hot and cold. He also wasn't ready to commit. Anyway, he would still keep in touch after that. He wished me happy birthday and he texted me twice after that. However, the last 2 times that he texted me, I ignored him.
2 months later I run into him at the nightclub. He seemed to be having a good time but he was definitely acting weird around me. I asked him how his family was and he ignored me and changed the subject. Then I called him out and he got pissed. He told me "this isn't a conversation for the club". Then he blurted out that his mom has cancer and that he's no longer at his job. I told him that I'm sorry and I didn't know. Then he brought up the fact that I "played" him and completely ignored his texts from 2 months ago. I basically told him I don't want any friction between us. He says "Even if we're not together, I still want your input and opinion on certain things." Then he left. (sooooo dramatic lol)
I was hoping to still be cool with him and be on friendly terms, but I'm confused as to why he was so pissed at me. I really want to text him and let him know that it was good to see him. I don't know.
What do you guys think?
You are overthinking this. It didn't work for a reason. You moved on for a reason. Keep moving on!
You are not right for each other, otherwise you would have stayed together. See how simple that is?
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