Online dating and attracting much younger men (single, attracted, children)
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Exactly. I see this a lot with online dating, hence my problem with it. I look like I'm in my 30's. Nobody ever guesses my age, and yet with online dating, I can't get 30 something year old women's attention.
Those guys will probably be immature (all the sex they know is from porn) or looking to just score. You can find marriage minded guys, buuuut they might be pushovers, boring dudes, or you will have to mold them (which you might like) so good luck.
In my recent 5 month's experience on OLD, I found there is no shortage of men in their 40s and even 50s who are "immature" for a lack of better word. Simply put, they can self-centered and either don't know how to behave properly or choose not to. It's unbelievable.
BTW, I don't doubt that there are immature women on OLD, as well. I'm sure there are plenty of them.
Surprisingly, I've found that men somewhat younger than I (up to 8 years younger) can be more gentlemanly and confident than are men older than I (i.e. men in the age group that I'm "supposed" to date).
OP, it's perfectly acceptable for you to date younger men. If you're looking for a LTR or marriage, though, I'm not sure if going younger than 10 years your junior would give you any better results.
Last edited by newdixiegirl; 10-26-2014 at 10:32 AM..
There is nothing wrong with giving younger guys a chance. They could be more emotionally mature than someone 10 - 15 years older. Everyone is different. If you find someone you like and are compatible with, then you can have "the discussion" about long term. There are not guarantees that an older man would be any more likely to want to settle down. Personally, I would not rule out anyone that I found appealing, regardless of their age.
SOO true.
Except I probably wouldn't go any younger than 25 if I were you, OP. I agree with the other poster who said that you should maybe consider 28-34 to start.
I have been attempting online dating since the beginning of July. I am 35 and I have been looking in the 30-39 range. I have been on about 25 dates from this source. Two I would go out a second time. One, I went out with 3-4 times, right up until he brought drugs to my house. I did go out with two men in their mid 40's, the conclusion was just eww. I don't do old.
The men in my age range are just weird cats. They are either pissed off at women or have other issues. I can't get away from them fast enough.
I have a lot of 22-29 year olds messaging me and up until recently I was just ignoring them. Now I am thinking why not...
Ultimately I want a long term relationship that leads to marriage. Are 22-29 year olds able to even offer this. Or am I just asking to have my heart broke yet again?
My sons father was 6 years younger and we would have worked out if he was a happy person and not looking for happiness in the next woman. We matched in looks, activity level, interests, etc.
What am I missing? Should I be giving the 22-29 year olds a chance?
I'm in my 20s and good-looking. I would not date a 35 year old woman (especially with kids) seriously. But if you want to just hookup, I'm down.
Sure give em a whirl but don't expect too much in the relationship dept. I mean, you might find one, but chances are more likely that they're looking for sex. At least you're not getting hit on as much by the much elderly men, which is the problem I have sometimes, as well as the younger men. It just goes with the territory in OLD.
Oh I have them hitting on me all the time. I ignore them or if they are overly persistent I tell them where they can go.
Older guys are disgusting and not at all appealing to me.
Exactly. I see this a lot with online dating, hence my problem with it. I look like I'm in my 30's. Nobody ever guesses my age, and yet with online dating, I can't get 30 something year old women's attention.
I am not sure where you get this idea but based on your profile picture, you are very much 42-45.
I have been attempting online dating since the beginning of July. I am 35 and I have been looking in the 30-39 range. I have been on about 25 dates from this source. Two I would go out a second time. One, I went out with 3-4 times, right up until he brought drugs to my house. I did go out with two men in their mid 40's, the conclusion was just eww. I don't do old.
The men in my age range are just weird cats. They are either pissed off at women or have other issues. I can't get away from them fast enough.
I have a lot of 22-29 year olds messaging me and up until recently I was just ignoring them. Now I am thinking why not...
Ultimately I want a long term relationship that leads to marriage. Are 22-29 year olds able to even offer this. Or am I just asking to have my heart broke yet again?
My sons father was 6 years younger and we would have worked out if he was a happy person and not looking for happiness in the next woman. We matched in looks, activity level, interests, etc.
What am I missing? Should I be giving the 22-29 year olds a chance?
Give the 28/29-yr-olds a chance. They're getting to the age where they're thinking about a serious LTR. For that matter, I know a couple of dudes in their mid-20's who are already doing well in their careers and are into a serious, committed relationship. One is looking, the other recently found a woman with a kid, and he's down with being a father to the kid.
So it can happen. I can't pretend to know the motives of the 20-somethings contacting you, though, OP. Probably not all of 'em are legit, but you never know.
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