Online dating and attracting much younger men (wife, marrying, girls)
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I am but i still have my financial life in order. I have savings, a home, drive a nice car, only debt is a small car payment and mortgage. I am completely fine financially.
I am spending half of November in the caribbean with my family. Trip was purchased with cash. Really I am fine financially. I am not asking for a man to bring equal money to the relationship, however somewhere close would be nice.
I dont advertise that my kids are on state insurance and we get food stamps. Appearance wise, i look and act very much upper middle class, as that is how I was raised.
I do not need or want a man for financial reasons. I have that covered. I want a life partner.
Not really sure how someone could be fine financially and yet be getting government assistance.... seems contradictory...
I don't have that much of an issue with people receiving aid, especially since it helps the kids out, it does serve a purpose.
Your posts in the thread have been pretty judgmental and rude at times, for you to be looking down your nose at people while getting the aid seems a little odd to me.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I dont need the assistance. I take it because we qualify and it helps keep me in a good financial place.
Fair enough, but it does mean you're not self sufficient. You're sufficient on yourself and the public's help.
That's fine, public assistance is a good thing for people that need the help, but being honest with who and what you are, and where you are in your life, is pretty critical in being able to date and have healthy relationships. Self honesty is just as important as honesty with others.
Wait so what part of what I am looking for in a relationship is unrealistic?
Within 5-6 years of my age?
Non Smoker?
Non drug user?
Have not been inmate in the last decade?
Not covered in tattoos and piercings?
Employed?
Drives and has transportation?
Not still living with parents or ex?
Being a reasonable size?
Not loud an obnoxious?
I am not even trying to add in good career and education.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Not knowing where you live and the demographics, its impossible to say.
But it sure does seem like you're in a rush. It very well may take many years to find a good match, maybe longer. That's ok. Not sure why you are in such a rush. You seem to have the similar complaint every month or so and have a real "need" to date (considering how many first dates you've had). Since you don't need someone, I'm not sure why you are putting so much importance on dating, especially since you've had two LTRs that led to children and I'm sure they take a lot of your time.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I want someone to have a relationship with, spend adult time with, travel and jist have a companion. I would like to be married again.
I've never been married, but I'd like to be someday I think and I'd like all those things you mention too, but still, breaks of 6 mos to a year (or more) are important to have. Having finding someone be huge priority in your life doesn't lead to happiness, IMO. If things aren't working in dating for you, take a break and improve your life.
Another problem is that once women hit hit their mid to late 40's, they really start to lose it (most of the time). Do you really want to be dating a guy in his mid 30's that has no children with you when this starts to happen? When you reverse the roles, it's easier for a guy that age to stay fit, and he can keep a younger woman around with security.
As I always say, there must be something seriously wrong with my eyes, then. Are there 40+ men that are fit and attractive? Of course there are, but they're hardly the norm.
If it's "easier" for men in their mid-late 40s and older to stay fit (and, indeed, it may be), then why don't more of them do it?
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