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Yes, it is!! Sorry!! It does help, because just confirms what I knew deep down. But from him constantly saying all that stuff. It just really messes up your head. I am sorry for posting all this ****. I really am. You just 2nd guess yourself. It's crazy !!!
Yes, it is!! Sorry!! It does help, because just confirms what I knew deep down. But from him constantly saying all that stuff. It just really messes up your head. I am sorry for posting all this ****. I really am. You just 2nd guess yourself. It's crazy !!!
Then you need to get out of that situation for your own good and peace of mind. Why put up with that if you don't have to.
Your right, I don't have too!!i am out of it. Just trying to heal from 4 years of verbal abuse and emotional. Well, me and everyone else thinks it is. But for some reason I keep thinking is this stuff just normal , I mean , is it??
Your right, I don't have too!!i am out of it. Just trying to heal from 4 years of verbal abuse and emotional. Well, me and everyone else thinks it is. But for some reason I keep thinking is this stuff just normal , I mean , is it??
Its only normal if you want it to be normal, but the average guy do not behave like this. If you feel that you are damaged from this relationship then perhaps you should seek help. Best of luck to you as you move on with your life.
You're right, I do know it's not normal - 90% of me knows this. But then there is 10% of me that thinks, did I make a big deal of this stuff? Or would most women not put up with half of this?
You're right, I do know it's not normal - 90% of me knows this. But then there is 10% of me that thinks, did I make a big deal of this stuff? Or would most women not put up with half of this?
You're right, I do know it's not normal - 90% of me knows this. But then there is 10% of me that thinks, did I make a big deal of this stuff? Or would most women not put up with half of this?
I second that, they would absolutely not put up with that.
Your right, I don't have too!!i am out of it. Just trying to heal from 4 years of verbal abuse and emotional. Well, me and everyone else thinks it is. But for some reason I keep thinking is this stuff just normal , I mean , is it??
Your reaction is normal in an abusive relationship. He gets in your head, and you question yourself and you think you should put up with his bs.
You lose track of what normal really is.
Call your local women's center, and start going to their support group, if you can find a way that he won't know about it. Either way, start saving money and making plans for how you can get away.
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@Memphis: If she stays with him, he will start hitting her, and their kid if they have one. Abusers often begin with being jealous, then controlling, then verbally abusive, then physical.
If he hit her on the first date, there would never be a second date. But now that he's gotten her brainwashed into thinking his whackadoodle behavior might just be normal, he's halfway there.
Humans are very adaptable to social structures, it's hardwired, and abusers take advantage of that. So did the nazis, and KKK, and fundamentalists of all types.
Your reaction is normal in an abusive relationship. He gets in your head, and you question yourself and you think you should put up with his bs.
You lose track of what normal really is.
Call your local women's center, and start going to their support group, if you can find a way that he won't know about it. Either way, start saving money and making plans for how you can get away.
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@Memphis: If she stays with him, he will start hitting her, and their kid if they have one. Abusers often begin with being jealous, then controlling, then verbally abusive, then physical.
If he hit her on the first date, there would never be a second date. But now that he's gotten her brainwashed into thinking his whackadoodle behavior might just be normal, he's halfway there.
Humans are very adaptable to social structures, it's hardwired, and abusers take advantage of that. So did the nazis, and KKK, and fundamentalists of all types.
Bull****, you don't know that.
Look, she should leave the guy for being a ******** on money? Yeah, probably. My dad and his now wife started out going dutch on everything. When they got married, he made her sign a prenuptial that what was his before, would be his or mine if he died. They still split bills, I've seen her say "oh, I owe you 50 for going out last night." Thats the dynamic they agreed upon. Do they argue about money, sometimes.
Nothing as bad as the op said, but for the last time, this is not abuse. Hell every relationship I've been in has had me second guess myself at sometime or the other. Thats not a sign of abuse.
I hate that abuse is being thrown around as a replacement for ******* behavior. Abuse is violent, verbal or physical. This guy is not violent and shows no inclination to be violent. He's a ass, but a long way from abusive
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