When is spontaneous unattractive?

[adner]

Good question!!! I guess the only time it would be bad is if your mate was a planner. Im very spontaneous, I have to be with my job and my husband is fine with it. However a friend of mine is a planner and could never be with anyone that didn't plan everything, so I think it depends on who you are spontaneous with!

[MMorena]

Originally Posted by MJ7

When is spontaneous unattractive or unwanted?

When it's following a clear statement of disinterest. For example, if person A tells person B they just want to take things easy, no pressure and person B goes out and buys them the "whole kit and caboodle."

Spontaneity is fun until two people aren't on the same page, then it's just tragic.

[Frihed89]

If you put limits on spontaneity, you choke it. "Ordered spontaneity" is another term for both tragic and phony.