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good time to review.
its not going to get better it will get worse.
eventually sex will die for you, the question is how good is the relationship?
is it good enough to give up sex.
Who said that "I'm" sitting on the coach all day? Not at all. I'm up everyday at 4:30am to hit the gym before work. I have a side business that I attend to 3 days a week after work but make sure I'm home on those days by 9pm for a late dinner and just some downtime with her.
How do you expect her to be engaged with you if you're always doing "whatever" by yourselves.
Do you ever ask if she wants to go out or make an effort to make an event that the bin of you will enjoy doing as a couple?
The sex is the only reason I form relationships so if the sex is bad then we better be working really hard to make it better. IF the other person does not even want to try then there is no reason to continue the relationship. I think all guys need to have a cheap call girls number filed away somewhere in case of situations like this. Just make sure you break up first but I think most guys would be better off with a sure thing fill in.
She's been to doctors and they tell her the reason for it is due to work related stress. She tells me that she's deeply in love with me and it has nothing to do with me, but instead with her libido.
This sounds like she has had very poor doctors indeed and perhaps this is a good first place for you to re-assess your position here. That a doctor - let alone multiple doctors - will just write off such a low libido as stress and do nothing to help - is mind boggling.
The causes of low libido are many fold and any person with low libido can be suffering from any one or more combined of these factors. Any doctor worth any salt at all is going to take a rainbow approach to this problem and look into changes in sleep - diet - physical activity - psychological issues - stress - and many other factors.
And let's face it - if this woman has been under "stress" of that magnitude for that period of time then she can not be genuinely enjoying life - and she is likely pushing herself into an early grave. It is time for her to re-assess her career choices not -just- in the light of what it is doing to your relationship sexually - but also what effects it is having on her quality and enjoyment of life as a whole - and other medical knock on effects it might have to her health and longevity in the long run.
But I would certainly advise getting more medical opinions on this - multiple ones - and in doing so do not be afraid to enquire where your medical advisor had their training. There is little point in getting four medical opinions from people who went to the same medical college. Attempt to get a diversity of medical backgrounds into the opinions you seek. Look for a GP trained in the US - one from the UK or elsewhere in Europe - and another trained in the east.
But look at ways to modify and improve diet - exercise - well being (meditation and wind down) and reduce stress (re-assess career path and choices) and many other things - and see if together they all form a positive feedback into your sexual relationship.
Other than that - as you say - if you are not happy with the WHOLE package of your relationship - then perhaps it is not the relationship for you. Some people would say that if you are happy with everything except ONE thing in a relationship - then stick it out. But why compromise yourself? Each of us has an XYZ list of things we want and need from the relationship we end up in - and your criteria and needs are no less valid than anyone elses. If your relationship can not, or will not, satisfy those for you - then it may indeed be time to reconsider before you or her invest too much more into a relationship that is ultimately going nowhere.
Again please no counseling for something like this. She has already been, no results. Sexual compatibility isa perfect way to end a relationship. Don't go to escorts though, eww. Just find someone else, remain good friends.
I didn't read through all the posts but. Has she had her hormones checked ? Is there any history of sexual abuse in her past ? You can't just let some Dr. tell you its stress and not find a way to overcome the problems. The right therapist could very likely help.
OP you have 5 years invested in this relationship,
Also how old are both of you ?
Some people do. Life is not always like the movies.
Besides, you only listed about half the choices he has available to him.
In the movies, things work out for the good. In real life, REASONABLE people either move on with a divorce or cheat. They don't just stick around helplessly unless they have issues. Not doing anything regarding a serious situation means it is not normal and you have issues.
Again please no counseling for something like this. She has already been, no results. Sexual compatibility isa perfect way to end a relationship. Don't go to escorts though, eww. Just find someone else, remain good friends.
Sounds like my first marriage. I was tired of always asking, initializing with varying degrees of nope. The rest of the relationship was off, too. That was long dean out misery.
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