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for me it is nonsense. To be happy you don't need anything either any one. Happy people are always happy with single or double unhappy person always unhappy where ever how ever and what ever. For me happiness is NO EGO ,NO DESIRE. By the way your user name remind me some one else.
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It depends....it's natural for us wanting to be with someone. It's a survival instinct. And when those needs aren't being met, it can cause someone to be unhappy. Some people suck at relationships for whatever reason. I've been single all my life. Am I happy? Yeah.... for the most part. I'd love to be woth someone. My social skills are terrible. Very quiet, meek personality. Then to top that off, I have health issues to deal with.
BS. I think you have to know who you are and what your strengths and weaknesses and needs are. And you have to be secure with all that.
That is not the same as being happy alone.
I say it's true in the sense (and I've always taken it to mean) that if you aren't able to be happy alone first, you won't suddenly become happy just because you are in a relationship. Maybe for a while it might give you a boost, but you will settle back into your old ways of feeling after the "honeymoon" wears off.
I would say you can be "happier" with someone else. But that's a higher degree of being happy.
BS. I think you have to know who you are and what your strengths and weaknesses and needs are. And you have to be secure with all that.
That is not the same as being happy alone.
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BS. I think you have to know who you are and what your strengths and weaknesses and needs are. And you have to be secure with all that.
That is not the same as being happy alone.
I would agree its not the same as being happy alone, but personally I think it is you need to be happy "single" before you can be happy in a relationship. Alone /= single.
I think it's true. Not necessarily be happy with being alone, but being happy with yourself regardless. Like someone else said, it's more about being secure with yourself. No one can make you happy but you. It's a state of mind.
I just think relationships are icing. Not the cake itself.
It is natural for many people, if not most, to be happier with companionship than without, and for most, the ultimate companionship is having a long-term romantic partner. Not everyone, but even without any empirical data to support it, I would still say it's more common to want a partner than not. So in that sense, many will be less happy with that facet of their lives if they don't ever find/fear they won't ever find a suitable partner.
But being less happy with one facet of your life doesn't, and shouldn't, equal being an abjectly miserable person in all aspects of life. If your life is ruined because you're single, then I'm sorry, but you're not an emotionally stable person. If you are a miserable, unhappy person person who is generally dissatisfied with life, no, being in a relationship is not going to make you magically all better. The issue is you. Sure, most people ultimately want to find somebody. But if you can't - CAN'T - be happy on your own, your unhappiness goes a lot further than just being wistful that you don't have a partner.
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