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the other thing is that these days people dont want to lose control on the first "date" anymore. it is too easy to go out for a drink, and end up drinking a bit too much, and lose your inhibitions, and do things you didnt intend to do on a first date.
Wasn't that part of the fun of getting all liquored up???
Long story short, I don't drink alcohol outside the home.
As to why, well, there are many reasons but one of the biggest ones is I don't want to be wondering the next morning if what I did, what I said, the night before was a factor of me having fun or if alcohol had anything to do with it.
Long story short, I don't drink alcohol outside the home.
As to why, well, there are many reasons but one of the biggest ones is I don't want to be wondering the next morning if what I did, what I said, the night before was a factor of me having fun or if alcohol had anything to do with it.
That is why i do not drink at all and if i do it had to be a good reason. I have been told i am very much a lady's man when i am black out drunk . People have told me I am very charming and such . I get the kind of black out drunk I can do every thing fine and if you did not know i have been drinking you think i was sober.
Also back than my liver was so black and bloated it could have starred in the movie Precious.
I don't think the 'coffee date' is for everyone. I like coffee plenty, but for a first date I prefer to get a beer or cocktail for myself and whatever my date would like is fine for her. I would never choose a loud or trashy bar, and I would never drink to excess. The best time for a first date is 5:30-6:30 or so, depending on work schedules. That way, if the date goes well, it can transition to a dinner date, or at least the date can be extended by ordering appetizers. A nice restaurant bar or pub will usually have good coffee drinks as well.
I understand why many women prefer to get coffee rather than meet a strange guy at a shady bar late in the evening. Still, when women have suggested we get coffee, and I suggested 'happy hour' instead, they have always seemed pleased, even the ones who chose not to drink.
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I don't think the 'coffee date' is for everyone. I like coffee plenty, but for a first date I prefer to get a beer or cocktail for myself and whatever my date would like is fine for her. I would never choose a loud or trashy bar, and I would never drink to excess. The best time for a first date is 5:30-6:30 or so, depending on work schedules. That way, if the date goes well, it can transition to a dinner date, or at least the date can be extended by ordering appetizers. A nice restaurant bar or pub will usually have good coffee drinks as well.
I understand why many women prefer to get coffee rather than meet a strange guy at a shady bar late in the evening. Still, when women have suggested we get coffee, and I suggested 'happy hour' instead, they have always seemed pleased, even the ones who chose not to drink.
Agreed. But lots of people I know, myself included, aren't going to drink coffee that late too. Coffee dates seem to be less loose and festive to me. There tends to be less laughter.
I've been out of circulation for quite some time, so I'm out of the loop on something that I've noticed when trying out online dating, or the few times I've been flirted with in person in the past few years:
These days, men seem to ask women out for coffee.
Back in my day, it was usually, if not lunch or dinner, out for cocktails at a bar.
Why has that changed? I know things evolve with time, like fashion and music, and I guess even the dating scene changes. I'm curious to see if anyone knows why. I've never liked coffee. A coffee meeting sounds about as social and sexy as a business meeting. Meeting at a bar for drinks would seem more flirty.
I agree with you. I'm not a fan of coffee dates at all and would much rather prefer a drink at a bar. I do remember in my younger days, I met a guy for drinks at a bar and just ordered lemonade. He probably thought I was weird.
Oh, and to answer your question: I think things changed to coffee because people got cheap and don't want to pay for alcohol. Heck, some don't even want to pay for coffee!
the other thing is that these days people dont want to lose control on the first "date" anymore. it is too easy to go out for a drink, and end up drinking a bit too much, and lose your inhibitions, and do things you didnt intend to do on a first date.
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Losing some inhibitions (if you have them) is a good thing for a lot of people. It leads to fun times.
Losing CONTROL is not cool.
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