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Ideally I always like to end with at least a "kiss close". No doubt what the intention is, less talk and more action. The sooner I can establish physical and intellectual intimacy, the more control I have over where I want the relationship to go.
When I cannot for whatever reason kiss or perceive it as inappropriate for the situation, I've had success with giving out my business card and telling the woman to text or call me her number. If I see that I am having an engaging conversation with a receptive woman enjoying my company, I end in on a high note, suggest an activity that we could pursue on a future occasion, and hand her my card; asking her to text or call me her number so we can go out.
If she is interested, she texts or calls me her number. If she is not, then she doesn't. Saves me time.
Now there have been one or two weak-willed women who despite being interested in me (validated by common social circles), did not text/call me because they were under the belief that only the man is supposed to do that. Or they are sloths because they are used to men vying for their attention and think that they are "above" contacting others first. I don't want to hang out with someone so weak-willed that they cannot conceptualize anything out of the heteronormative or are not assertive/confident enough to continue so I consider it dodging a bullet. I'm done playing that game despite my record
I think the phone game is one of the most depressing aspects of dating.
The entire process is really just a test of patience & respect.
Never give out your number and expect a call in return. It doesn't work like this.
Get her number, and then call her. 98% of the time guaranteed you will get her voicemail when you dial her number.
Leave your number in the message for her to call you back.
DO NOT CALL AGAIN! This is a test right here.
Move on to the 2nd test: Keep the conversation short & brief. The longer you talk to her on the phone, the more respect you'll lose.
There is a whole scene in the movie "He's just not into you" dedicated to this very thing. They exchange phone numbers and he says something then walks away and she chases him down and starts picking it apart as to who was going to call who.
I think the phone game is one of the most depressing aspects of dating.
The entire process is really just a test of patience & respect.
Never give out your number and expect a call in return. It doesn't work like this.
Get her number, and then call her. 98% of the time guaranteed you will get her voicemail when you dial her number.
Leave your number in the message for her to call you back.
DO NOT CALL AGAIN! This is a test right here.
Move on to the 2nd test: Keep the conversation short & brief. The longer you talk to her on the phone, the more respect you'll lose.
This is a good post. Giving her your number will rarely, if ever, result in anything. You have to obtain hers or your just p*ssing in the wind.
Give her time to think you over where you might get a call.
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