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And then you end up divorcing/breaking up with that person who "intrigued" you because you finally realize you have nothing in common..
I think this is often the case. I have heard of these types of relationships surviving. Usually one person is doing one thing while the other is off doing something else most of the time. And again I question what's the point of being in the relationship when you can just do that on your own? Different strokes I guess.
Not polar. To me, that will lead to a volatile relationship. Because if you're too different, it will cause arguments, and alot of head-butting.
But opposite on some things sure, maybe for some balance.
For example, I am shy, neurotic and not a leader type. I would like a SO more level-headed, and take-charge. Now I don't want a guy who's shy. I also don't want obnoxious, and doesn't know how to act in public. There's a middle ground with the 2 extremes.
So, I would want a guy similar to me in terms of core beliefs, religious beliefs, and who was interested in the same things I was. Not everything of course, but enough that we'd have some common ground and chemistry. But opposite in other areas.
I've been in relationships where we were too much alike, and thus, there was very little growth. And I've been in relationships with a polar opposite and I grew a lot from it, my interests were greatly expanded, but there was continual friction.
Not having similar interests can divide you, or it can open up new horizons. You don't have to like the same movies, or music, or all the same activities but there is something to be said for shared things that bond you together.
I don't believe that your core values, beliefs and character can be in opposition to your partner and hope to have success. How can you succeed if you're opposites who are not working toward the same goals and plans in life together, who want different things? Being physically attracted to each other is not enough to sustain a relationship when there isn't a common foundation that you're standing on together.
And then you end up divorcing/breaking up with that person who "intrigued" you because you finally realize you have nothing in common..
yes
I am usually the loving, clingy part that gives a lot of love. But if I get that same amount back, I am overwhelmed and it's just too much. Right now I am with a guy where I get back what I put in and I am worried that it is too much.
I am a very quiet person but I like to hang out with loud guys. I married another very quiet person and we were too quiet together.
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