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Stop making such a big deal out of your virginity, P.Varma and SharpshooterTom. You are making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe it's easier said than done, but try to put your inexperience out of your mind and just live your life, get out there and chat casually with all kinds of women and people in general. Keep it simple, have zero expectations, clear your mind and take it a step at a time. While it's true that many women prefer to date a man who's already had a relationship or two and is past his "sow his wild oats" phase...a relaxed, fun and confident guy is going to attract positive attention from some women regardless of whether he has experience or doesn't.
It is the WHY(s) behind the lack of dates and sexual experience that really matters and is probably what's holding you back. And it is those reasons that others are sensing...likely long before they find out that you're a virgin (if they find out at all). Heck, they probably detect one or more of issues the very first time you two meet. Chances are, those reasons by themselves have zero direct connection with sex or lack thereof...they are merely strong contributing factors that lead to a byproduct of inexperience with women. Have you even asked out a woman?
Believe it or not I have. In one case I just got a direct rejection. A flat out no. In the other case she said sure but always cancelled at the last minute. So there you go.
Believe it or not I have. In one case I just got a direct rejection. A flat out no. In the other case she said sure but always cancelled at the last minute. So there you go.
You and every other guy. Rejection is normal and healthy. The majority of men know how to take it not let it crush them. The fact that you feel like throwing the towel in after 2 rejections is a sign of a deeper self-confidence issue. But instead of asking what you could have done differently in the case of the woman who initially agreed, you're blaming it on irrelevant details (your virginity).
Your attitude is what's going to keep women far away from you. Not your virginity.
You and every other guy. Rejection is normal and healthy. The majority of men know how to take it not let it crush them. The fact that you feel like throwing the towel in after 2 rejections is a sign of a deeper self-confidence issue. But instead of asking what you could have done differently in the case of the woman who initially agreed, you're blaming it on irrelevant details (your virginity).
Your attitude is what's going to keep women far away from you. Not your virginity.
Yep. It's hard, but that's life as a guy. You will be rejected a LOT. Like, a TON. There's a few ways to deal with it, but "giving up" is only an option if you're willing to accept the consequences, which will be "staying single"...because women sure as hell won't be asking you out. Not that there's anything wrong with staying single, but if your objective is the opposite..then you're in trouble.
Yep. It's hard, but that's life as a guy. You will be rejected a LOT. Like, a TON. There's a few ways to deal with it, but "giving up" is only an option if you're willing to accept the consequences, which will be "staying single"...because women sure as hell won't be asking you out. Not that there's anything wrong with staying single, but if your objective is the opposite..then you're in trouble.
Very true. I was rejected about a half dozen times before I got a first date. It's really hard when you're young, I know I initially took it personally and it can really lower self confidence. This is just like riding a bike, you fall get up and do it again.
Believe it or not I have. In one case I just got a direct rejection. A flat out no. In the other case she said sure but always cancelled at the last minute. So there you go.
You have only asked out two women, in 28 years?
Being introverted is really holding you back. What are you doing about it?
OP, you should consider yourself very lucky indeed to have the option of an arranged marriage. There are probably thousands of guys who are in your position, introverted and unable to get a date, who would kill for the opportunity of having their parents get them a woman. If you haven't gotten over your insecurities with women by 30, then take the option for goodness sake.
OP, you should consider yourself very lucky indeed to have the option of an arranged marriage. There are probably thousands of guys who are in your position, introverted and unable to get a date, who would kill for the opportunity of having their parents get them a sex receptacle. If you haven't gotten over your insecurities with women by 30, then take the option for goodness sake.
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