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some chicks you can kiss them shortly after "hanging out" with them no date involved
some chicks get mad when you dont try to kiss them
I don't think not wanting to kiss a stranger on the very first date should be confusing at ALL. You don't do yourself any favors to think that every chick is a loose one. You would do far better to assume that they are the opposite.
I've never had a guy ask. Men I've gone out with have been able to read my body language to know if I would be open to it. IME men usually do other gestures to gauge your response before they would kiss. Things like holding hands, put their arm around you, lean closer etc.
Not saying I would totally be disinterested if a guy did but I understand how it could come across as awkward or lame.
As a guy it is important to read the situation. It's not very hard if a woman is inviting herself to open up to sexual connection. The first date definitely not, it is a feeling out period. I will go in for the kill once I sense blood (but not that kind of blood).
I've had dates ask, and I thought it was sweet. In fact, my current boyfriend asked.
But, as with many things, how you say it is as important as what you say. If he had sounded whiny, it would have been a big turn off.
We had gone for a walk after our meal, we were standing on a small bridge over a small creek bed, we were talking, he took off his sunglasses and said "Can I kiss you?". It did not come across as weak or insecure at all.
I don't think not wanting to kiss a stranger on the very first date should be confusing at ALL. You don't do yourself any favors to think that every chick is a loose one. You would do far better to assume that they are the opposite.
Hopefully I'm with a guy who can read the signs....if I want you to kiss me, you should know it without me having to tell you it's okay. If a guy can't tell, to me there's no reason to go further, because he's not going to be perceptive enough to be a good lover anyway, in my experience. I don't have patience for timidity in dating. IMO the guy should have been escalating with things like eye contact, holding my hand briefly across the table, and seeing how I am reacting and responding.... the kiss shouldn't come out of nowhere, the date should be leading to it. If she's rejecting the lead-ins. then don't go for the kiss, if she responds by returning eye contact, turning her eyes down briefly, smiling...then keep escalating and go for the kiss at the end. To me, most of seduction and desire building happens on a non-verbal level, and discussing it ruins the vibe.
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Thanks everyone for the feedback. Sounds like I need to read her body language and let that guide my decision.
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Nothin' like goin' with the flow...
And there's nothing wrong with asking
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You don't do yourself any favors to think that every chick is a loose one. You would do far better to assume that they are the opposite.
