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I think a lot of couples settle "to some" extent. I don't think most people end up finding that perfect partner that they envision. If you go through life trying to find that perfect someone, don't be surprised if you end up alone.
^^^This.
Maybe part of the problem is envisioning how your perfect partner should look in the first place.
This is mainly a thread for the guys who don't have much luck with women (such as myself). My standards are high when it comes to women. I mean high! I won't go on a date with a woman I am not attracted to and I will not have a serious relationship with a woman I have no attraction to. I have had people say her personality will grow on you, which I think is nonsense. If I don't find her attractive, I never will. To all the guys here with barely no success with women, would you settle and be with a woman you had no attraction to, or stay single?
It has nothing to do with luck with women, it comes down to confidence. Sure, it is harder to find that perfect match, but you can't just go around thinking that all the time. I myself will go through phases. I might not expect to meet a woman and then it just happens. Then there are phases when I will be with a woman and I will wish that I was still single.
I will definitely have fun with a woman that isn't up to my standards for a long term relationship, but I let that be known, that I'm just looking to have fun with a fun woman.
If I want a long term relationship then I will never settle, not worth it.
I look at the whole package. Some really pretty women make me want to vomit with their personalities and attitudes. Some ugly ones too. I don't discriminate....I'm an equal opportunity employer!
I think a lot of couples settle "to some" extent. I don't think most people end up finding that perfect partner that they envision. If you go through life trying to find that perfect someone, don't be surprised if you end up alone.
I can live with that. I wouldn't be surprised at all.
I try to give everyone a chance. Often times I end up being very disappointed. They could have had everything, yet were too daft to see and realize it. I always get accused of stuff I didn't do or had no control of as well. It p*sses me the hell right off!
I'm not a real big people person, but when I give people a chance they disappoint me as well. Now I'm selective about the women I choose to allow in my life. I completely understand how you feel. It's usually not a good feeling.
I tend to think of women who look extremely attractive in terms of looks as spam. Yes, I may get lucky and have her in bed a few months later, but a relationship involves far more important things than sex (Which BTW, is FAR BETTER after being rightfully earned). Much rather go with a mid range woman who I can comfortably share my joys, sorrows, concerns, interests, and other more meaningful stuff with regards to compatibility.
Men interested in relationships should be looking for a equally respectable partner, not some hooker. That's one thing many guys my age forget about.
Some people on here think if you can't get dates, you should settle.
This begs for clarification.
There's stark difference between "dates" and a permanent relationship. For those persons who are utterly unable to "get dates", there is by definition no prospective partner for whom to "settle". One can not settle for somebody, if said somebody does not exist. "Settling" means deciding to intertwine one's life with a person who comes into one's sphere of acquaintance, without that person having a special appeal.
But what about the case of the person who goes on dates from time to time, but is unable to convert those dates into a relationship? Should such a person "settle" for the first individual whom he/she is dating, who does express interest in a relationship? Or should the dating-campaign continue?
The point is that all candidate partners in our admissible set are individuals whom the person in question cares to date. So there is presumably a modicum of attraction, or at least potential attraction, already. To "settle" doesn't mean to stand with a cardboard sign at a highway offramp, with "Have pity on me, and marry me!" scrawled on the sign. Instead, settling means the cessation of dating and the acceptance of one's date as one's life partner (assuming that the feeling is mutual) without necessarily feeling any elation or self-congratulatory feeling of mission-accomplished.
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