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I don't understand the whole trying to look like you're in a zone thing...you don't have to pretend you don't notice a girl is pretty, we want you to notice us...if you can't learn to make eye contact, and to own your masculinity and the fact you find women attractive, you're going to have a much harder time. Make a point to make eye contact and smile with everyone you pass until it feels comfortable, then you'll be ready to approach girls.
This is much better advice than pretending to fumble around whilst "zoned out" until she passes, and then proceed to stare at her while she's walking in the opposite direction. Like that's not creepy at all. No way.
OP, next time make eye contact and flash a giant smile, maybe a "hello" if she's nearby, then go back to doing what you're doing. You'll make yourself look approachable instead of awkward and weird.
from the corner of my eye; I could tell she was looking at me . She fixed her hair, we walked past each other and she looked back subtly. We did not make eye contact, so pretty sure she didnt give me a stern look.
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Can't a woman fix her hair without some random guy thinking she's coming on to him? Jeez.
Honestly from your brief story, if you two are in a city, she was probably looking back to make sure you weren't following her in a predatory way. 99.98% of the time that's why I do things like that. I make eye contact because that's what we're told to do to establish we're aware of creepers following us around and to stand our ground in case they get pushy. Eye contact followed by a stern, "Not interested."
from the corner of my eye; I could tell she was looking at me . She fixed her hair, we walked past each other and she looked back subtly. We did not make eye contact, so pretty sure she didnt give me a stern look.
Next time this happens, just smile and say hi, then go about your business. It's nonthreatening.
She will pick up the bait if she wants to talk to you. If all she says is hi back and keeps walking, let her walk.
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nope. the original post describes the exact situation.
Not very clearly. A girl walked by. That's all you gave us. Unless you know you'll see her again, there is no situation, certainly not one described in your OP.
We did not make eye contact, so pretty sure she didnt give me a stern look.
From the corner of your eye, not making eye contact, there is no way for you to be "pretty sure" about whether she did or did not give you a stern look. It's 50% she may have, 50% she may not have.
You're overthinking a fantasy you're fabricating from a girl that looked your way and moved her hair back when it blew into her face as she was looking around. People look at people. They look around when they walk. Because you happened to be in her line of sight does not mean she was trying to come onto you.
Go strike up a conversation and then you'll have a reason to wonder, "Is it appropriate for me to approach her? Why is she touching her hair when I'm talking directly to her?"
Putting the cart before the horse here.
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Not very clearly. A girl walked by. That's all you gave us. Unless you know you'll see her again, there is no situation, certainly not one described in your OP.
Agreed. There's nothing here and it's creepy someone would make this many assumptions about a mere acknowledgment that they were standing where they were at that moment.
Okay, I'll try to fill you in with more details then.
She looked at me when she was in front of me , i could tell we wouldve made eye contact if i actually manned up and decided to look at her instead of acting like a little kid and play the high school 'try to let her know that i'm not interested when i am' game.
She preened her hair and glanced at me ... then we walked by and she looks over her shoulder as if it catch a glance (dont know whether it was to check if i was following her or cause of something else though; hence the mystery)....
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Not very clearly. A girl walked by. That's all you gave us. Unless you know you'll see her again, there is no situation, certainly not one described in your OP.
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