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If you found an attractive dating partner whose personal history includes divorce; how extensive would that history of divorce have to be for it to become a dealbreaker?
Here's some anecdotal evidence: All of my friends who have been married more than 3 times are pretty screwed up. I mean, news article-worthy dysfunction. It's a good-sized red flag.
"As an adult" is there any other group other than adults divorcing?
I would like to see opinions on whether parental breakups contribute to a higher rate of future divorces and whether adults affected by divorce as children generate more apprehension from prospective dating partners.
I believe that going through divorce as a child can have long lasting psychological implications well into adulthood and personally I would be more concerned about someone whose parents broke up than someone who made one bad judgment call and divorced once during adulthood.
Last edited by AtkinsonDan; 11-11-2014 at 04:54 PM..
I'm not from a family with divorce, but always wished my mother had divorced dad. She deserves a better man (and keeps saying it to me), but then again she is a grown woman who was capable of making choices.
God knows why she didn't complain to the police when my dad's father forced her into marriage by physical submission. She had a very good case to put forward, but her family was just way too poor to pay up for a lawyer (seriously, her dad earned like $8 per day).
This was in 1990, back when women were treated like second class citizens in India.
Moving forward, I'd like to avoid divorce at all costs. Break ups are fine (no legal binding), but divorce is not (legal crap to deal with). However, with that said I will not accept to submission. Don't treat me like an animal who lives only for sex, alright.
Last edited by Adi from the Brunswicks; 11-11-2014 at 04:52 PM..
I would like to see opinions on whether parental breakups contribute to a higher rate of future divorces and whether adults affected by divorce as children generate more apprehension from prospective dating partners.
I believe that going through divorce as a child can have long lasting psychological implications well into adulthood and personally I would be more concerned about someone whose parents broke up than someone who made one bad judgment call and divorced once during adulthood.
Not that.
This:
Quote:
As An Adult
after each of the choices. Who else would divorce?
after each of the choices. Who else would divorce?
I was trying to be thorough in distinguishing indirect versus direct divorce participants but apparently I was redundant, not really the focus of the topic. Do you have any contributions to the topic beyond picking apart grammar in the poll options?
Last edited by AtkinsonDan; 11-11-2014 at 06:28 PM..
I used to judge people who were divorced... thought they couldn't work on relationships. Then my ex-husband left me and there is nothing I could do to stop it (he's openly gay now). He was a man's man, military, been in combat, nothing to indicate he might have a different sexual orientation. He's completely different now from the day I married him.
So really, it depends on the person and their situation. Did they not work on things? Did the other spouse change into someone else? Etc.
Children of divorce... I don't know many. But the ones I know are anti-divorce so part of me thinks they are more likely to stay committed.
I used to judge people who were divorced... thought they couldn't work on relationships. Then my ex-husband left me and there is nothing I could do to stop it (he's openly gay now). He was a man's man, military, been in combat, nothing to indicate he might have a different sexual orientation. He's completely different now from the day I married him.
So really, it depends on the person and their situation. Did they not work on things? Did the other spouse change into someone else? Etc.
Children of divorce... I don't know many. But the ones I know are anti-divorce so part of me thinks they are more likely to stay committed.
There you are again.....
Yeah, my ex wife is a totally different person than when we met; and it took some therapy on my part to deal with her current living situation. One bedroom apartment with her lesbian girlfriend.....
But.....I would hope that potential dating partners on my end wouldn't judge ME for HER sexual fluidity.........it just ain't my fault....
And I would hope that the new ladies in my life wouldn't judge me because my parents are divorced. Not to worry too much, as I grew up mostly with my father and his new bride...who happens to be one of the most fantastic women I've ever known.
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....it just ain't my fault....
