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View Poll Results: Would you date a man who's paid for sex in the past?
Yes 31 44.93%
No 38 55.07%
Voters: 69. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 11-13-2014, 09:15 AM
 
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I think if people have problems with their behavior while drinking (whether it's divulging "too much" information, or any other kind of negative behavior) then there will be more problems than just having visited an escort
Might not be drinking so much as it's just a tool to loosen their tongues a bit. After all, it could be that I am such a wonderful seductress that I have a way with getting men to spill their deepest, darkest secrets to me!

(Okay, please excuse me while I laugh at the absurdity of my above statement until I have to pee ).
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Old 11-13-2014, 10:46 AM
 
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From a Man's perspective:

If I met a woman who used a service once or twice, I'd have no problem with it.

If I met a woman who has used a service and used it many times with the same man, I'd think about it.

If I met a woman who used the service many times with different men, then probably not.

For the last one, it would be the same for me for a woman who had many different casual sexual partners. While the former might be considered a "business" transaction, I think the latter is just a different kind of business transaction.
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Old 11-13-2014, 11:05 AM
 
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yes

Lots of guys I know had sex with a hooker.

If it is once or twice, I don't care.

If he went there regularly - dealbreaker for me.
My dyslexia kicked in and I read this as "Lots of guys know I had sex with a hooker"
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Old 11-13-2014, 12:33 PM
 
Location: All Over
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I knwo there's a stigma attached to it but honestly hookers are much safer than one night stands from a disease standpoint.
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Old 11-13-2014, 01:11 PM
 
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Women should not date these men, because any man who actually admits this *to a woman he is dating* is not likely to be an intellectual match for even the dumbest woman in the world.
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Old 11-13-2014, 02:08 PM
 
Location: DC
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I knwo there's a stigma attached to it but honestly hookers are much safer than one night stands from a disease standpoint.
This is what I keep saying. Unless you're frequenting the $50 variety of sex worker...then maybe not so much.
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Old 11-13-2014, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Southeast, where else?
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Yep. And paying for it wouldn't even matter. I wouldn't go near a rock star or professional athlete with a 10-foot pole. Once you start talking numbers like that, it tells me you have issues not only with how you see women, but also with self-discipline, self-respect, and impulse control. It's all nasty, physically and mentally. Nasty, nasty, nasty.
That or he finds that cheaper in the long run?
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Old 11-13-2014, 02:22 PM
 
Location: Southeast, where else?
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Boy, the way the women are sounding on this is making prostitution look better and better all the time! Maybe they are over thinking this too much. I'm not in favor of us men doing it but, I'm starting to see why they might?

It's probably not as transactional as some women might think. Although those quick transactions do occur, the friends I know that have dabbled in it see it much differently. I have a friend who lives on Lake Lanier. He has built a great business for himself and never wants to get married. He works so much that it's virtually impossible.

So, this is what he landed on. He has found a service that sends women out for the day and night if desired. They hang out just like friends, enjoy the lake, go out to dinner and whatever and at the end of the evening or next morning, they go about their merry way.

Turns out, that he tends to stick to the same two he met awhile back. It's all very, very professional and doesn't even seem like a business arrangement (his words, not mine). They are paid for services rendered, no one gets hurt, and they both go their separate ways when it's over.

Kind of like a lot of dates most folks had earlier in life without the drama and commitments so necessary by some. It's not sleazy. These women are quite attractive and dress very well for the occasion. They are very respectful and vice versa. They seemed to have developed a professional relationship. Sometimes they call just to come over and hang out on his dock.

Is this typical? I doubt it but, it seems like a new niche that seems to work in this profession. I do know that he is quite happy with the arrangement and the terms in which he engages in the dates so I can't say it hasn't worked for him. They expect nothing further when they go on their way and are paid well for their time spent.

Awkward to most of us but, seems to work for him. Not sure you can judge him as again, he is respectful and treats them as well, or better, than any date he has ever had. In fact, better relations than most girlfriends he has ever had as well.

If he changed course and met someone, I don't think it would, or should matter. He wears protection, has yet to pick up an STD (yet being the word here but, probably no more risky than the rest of the public???) and loves that it is on his terms. When he is available, when it fits his schedule. He's even taken one for the weekend to a trade show.

New world but, from what my friends tell me about the dating sites, it's no more or worse than them, it only involves money. These girls are looking for money, the ones on the dating sites are either looking for help or simply looking for a man.

Is one better than the other? Probably more moral one way but, you can't say it isn't working for him. Smart money says he will stay this way as to put it in his words; "I haven't lost a house, a car, a boat, or had to pay for a kid or kids over it".

Fair enough.
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Old 11-13-2014, 02:28 PM
 
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Women should not date these men, because any man who actually admits this *to a woman he is dating* is not likely to be an intellectual match for even the dumbest woman in the world.
You'd be surprise.
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Old 11-13-2014, 02:29 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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My dyslexia kicked in and I read this as "Lots of guys know I had sex with a hooker"
hey now ....
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