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If you have a first date that is slightly awkward (but still fairly decent) and you are worried about what the other person thought...do you think that it is better to acknowledge it afterwards (when texting afterwards, saying something like "sorry if that was a little bit awkward, I'm kind of shy at first"), or just letting it be and hoping they just understand?
I tend to be a bit shy. So, I would tell my date at the end, that I had fun, I was just a bit nervous on our first date, Because sometimes, people don't get it, and shy or awkward could come off as
1. They find me repulsive
2. They're not interested
3. They're cold
4. They're weird.
So, if I had fun, I would let my date know, that way they don't have to guess or read a slew of signals for "Did she have fun?" or "Am I wasting my time with a cold fish." So, if they still like me after the date, they know they aren't wasting time on someone who's uninterested.
I am shy too. I wouldn't apologize without a big dose of humor. "I'm sorry" triggers an "it's okay" type response, and neither of those things may be how you actually feel. If you can laugh at a situation or react with good nature, that seems more attractive than perhaps provoking feels of pity.
You run the risk of putting her off if she didn't think it was awkward.
Does OP want to be with a girl who is put off by something so trivial? I wouldn't. A person who does that is their own worst enemy and will never be satisfied, because they'll always be nitpicking extremely insignificant details.
Does OP want to be with a girl who is put off by something so trivial? I wouldn't. A person who does that is their own worst enemy and will never be satisfied, because they'll always be nitpicking extremely insignificant details.
Maybe we have different ideas of what it means to be "put off." It's not synonymous with "upset." In this kind of scenario, it usually just means to be discouraged.
If you went out on what you thought was a great date, and the person sent you a text afterward that indicated they felt otherwise, you wouldn't wonder what the heck happened?
At some point, the truth about ourselves will become known to others with whom we try to be close. Why waste time pretending we are something we are not?
Maybe we have different ideas of what it means to be "put off." It's not synonymous with "upset." In this kind of scenario, it usually just means to be discouraged.
If you went out on what you thought was a great date, and the person sent you a text afterward that indicated they felt otherwise, you wouldn't wonder what the heck happened?
Feeling awkward or shy around a new person and acknowledging that with the person you went out with does not indicate that you had a bad time. If anything, it's more of an apology of sorts, with the implication that the shy person will eventually open up over time if you are willing to give them that chance.
If you have a first date that is slightly awkward (but still fairly decent) and you are worried about what the other person thought...do you think that it is better to acknowledge it afterwards (when texting afterwards, saying something like "sorry if that was a little bit awkward, I'm kind of shy at first"), or just letting it be and hoping they just understand?
I usually will flat out say: "that was awkward" after a talk. If it was awkward, then call it out. Don't pretend as though what happened wasn't. Maybe the chemistry is off.
Feeling awkward or shy around a new person and acknowledging that with the person you went out with does not indicate that you had a bad time. If anything, it's more of an apology of sorts, with the implication that the shy person will eventually open up over time if you are willing to give them that chance.
Apparently I never went out with any shy people.
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