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I am not a leech. I work full time 40-55 hours a week.
I qualify because of my income and expenses. My daycare bill alone is almost $1000 a month. If I was able to obtain child support, I probably would not qualify but for now, I do. I will collect the $200 in monthly food stamps and medical insurance for my kids until I no longer qualify.
That's the ticket, lol
Each kid gets you a piece of the taxpayers hard earned income....
Thats the game, isn't it?
Then sell your flash car. You have no good reason to be using tapayer's money so that YOU can have a cushy lifestyle. Then you come on this forum and tell everyone you're going to lie to get a man? Do you realise what that screams about your character or so you just not care what peop/e think of you?
I have saved money, made good financial decisions, and worked hard for the cushy lifestyle that I enjoy. I don't need to sell my car. I can afford it just fine and selling it would not effect my assistance qualification. Frankly I drive what works for me and my lifestyle. I don't drive what I drive as a status symbol or just because it is expensive.
Frankly I am grasping at straws with online dating to try to attract the type of man that. I am looking for. Education seems to be the next realistic change. And in the end I did not lie, I changed my profile to say I have had some college! which is the truth.
I do have a professional job so there is no reason why I should not be able to attract similar people.
To be hobest, I don't think putting some college or no college on your profile make any difference.
What stop many men to approach you is most likely age and/or kids. You will still find someone, but your choices are more limited than younger women with no kids.
I do not know what type of professional job you have. In my city, there are many societies/club for people who has professional job. For example, CPA society, CFA society, business society and so on. You might not find dates on the first meeting, but you get to know more people and go from there.
To be hobest, I don't think putting some college or no college on your profile make any difference.
What stop many men to approach you is most likely age and/or kids. You will still find someone, but your choices are more limited than younger women with no kids.
I do not know what type of professional job you have. In my city, there are many societies/club for people who has professional job. For example, CPA society, CFA society, business society and so on. You might not find dates on the first meeting, but you get to know more people and go from there.
I can't change my age or that I have two children.
I currently have an administrative position. Previously I was an insurance agent and prior to that an insurance adjuster.
OK I just had another thought. I am not saying this in a way to attack you and I'll leave out the public assistance part.
What I have issue with is when you call lying on your profile a "white lie." No, it's just a plain lie if you put something that isn't true. When you misrepresent yourself that's just a lie. If you have some college and you didn't put that down before, why not? You should always present yourself in the best possible light and not as someone who's going to marry a guy and then quit working and lay around. I'm not saying you'd do that, but you do understand there's enough who do that it makes men leery of that kind of scenario, right?
A white lie is when your best friend asks you what you think of the expensive new dress she has on and it's too late for her to change, so you say it looks really cute. And it doesn't. A white lie is told solely to protect someone else's feelings.
OK I just had another thought. I am not saying this in a way to attack you and I'll leave out the public assistance part.
What I have issue with is when you call lying on your profile a "white lie." No, it's just a plain lie if you put something that isn't true. When you misrepresent yourself that's just a lie. If you have some college and you didn't put that down before, why not? You should always present yourself in the best possible light and not as someone who's going to marry a guy and then quit working and lay around. I'm not saying you'd do that, but you do understand there's enough who do that it makes men leery of that kind of scenario, right?
A white lie is when your best friend asks you what you think of the expensive new dress she has on and it's too late for her to change, so you say it looks really cute. And it doesn't. A white lie is told solely to protect someone else's feelings.
I would think assuming I would quit working after marriage just because I don't have a college education is quite a leap.
I most likely would not combine funds with a partner in the future. I am perfectly happy continuing to pay my bills and maintaining my own savings. Regardless of my career choice or education.
And honestly, I have not even gone on one date with a man that has their stuff together even remotely close to my financial situation. If anything I should be concerned about acquiring a mooch instead of a partner.
Everyone has what they consider to be minimum standards. As long as your minimum is realistic it shouldn't be a problem. You have a good financial position and are good with your money and you would like a man that is the same as well, that is reasonable.
From my POV I don't qualify or disqualify a woman based on her education level. I have no problem dating a woman with a HS education if I find her attractive, we have good chemistry, and she isn't bad with her money. If a woman is bad with her money it doesn't matter how much she makes or how educated she is, she will continue to be broke no matter how much she makes (same goes for men).
I guess what I'm saying is don't expect the caliber of men to improve simply because you changed your education level to some college. If you haven't already I would have a couple of lines saying that you are financially stable with a good job and that you appreciate men that also have the same. The keyword is APPRECIATE, it makes it sound less demanding and more sincere with some affection. Beyond the T&A men are attracted to affectionate and appreciative women; in other words feminine women. This says in a non *****y way that losers won't get far with you and that winners should contact you.
Everyone has what they consider to be minimum standards. As long as your minimum is realistic it shouldn't be a problem. You have a good financial position and are good with your money and you would like a man that is the same as well, that is reasonable.
From my POV I don't qualify or disqualify a woman based on her education level. I have no problem dating a woman with a HS education if I find her attractive, we have good chemistry, and she isn't bad with her money. If a woman is bad with her money it doesn't matter how much she makes or how educated she is, she will continue to be broke no matter how much she makes (same goes for men).
I guess what I'm saying is don't expect the caliber of men to improve simply because you changed your education level to some college. If you haven't already I would have a couple of lines saying that you are financially stable with a good job and that you appreciate men that also have the same. The keyword is APPRECIATE, it makes it sound less demanding and more sincere with some affection. Beyond the T&A men are attracted to affectionate and appreciative women; in other words feminine women. This says in a non *****y way that losers won't get far with you and that winners should contact you.
I like your wording! Thank you
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