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1. American
2. White
3. Male
4. Similiar interests
5. Employed
6. Lives Within 30 miles
7. Does not live with parents
8. Likes kids
9. Drug free
10. Drinks in moderation
Well, since you asked...
American and White aren't "high" standards, but are rather narrow-minded criteria, particularly for someone who wants to portray herself as educated. It's not the smartest way to limit yourself.
"Lives within 30 miles" can also be fairly limiting if you don't live near the center of a major metropolitan area. (Your profile doesn't say.)
"Drug free" is kind of a meaningless term, since most people use drugs of some form or another. If you mean "Drug abuse free," that's reasonable and wise. If you mean "Illicit drug free, you should probably consider that the most abused drugs in the US are legal.
American and White aren't "high" standards, but are rather narrow-minded criteria, particularly for someone who wants to portray herself as educated. It's not the smartest way to limit yourself.
"Lives within 30 miles" can also be fairly limiting if you don't live near the center of a major metropolitan area. (Your profile doesn't say.)
"Drug free" is kind of a meaningless term, since most people use drugs of some form or another. If you mean "Drug abuse free," that's reasonable and wise. If you mean "Illicit drug free, you should probably consider that the most abused drugs in the US are legal.
The rest of your criteria seem reasonable to me.
Everyone understands that "drug free" means "drug abuse free" or no junkie. I do not think that as an unreasonable criterion.
"Lives within 30 miles" is also important, you want to be able to date the person easily. That is understandable.
The only criteria I would consider "unreasonable" are "American" and "White" as that might have a connotation. However, as being educated does not necessarily mean being progressive or liberal, well, you may just be a very "conservative", educated person, for what it means.
As a matter of fact, the first criterion, coupled with the foreigner status, could give a false (?) impression of will to stabilize the administrative situation - again, I do not know your situation, OP.
Anyway OP, the people you intend to "catch" should feel that you and them are similar. Not necessarily based on what you pretend to be, but more on how you express your ideas and structure your thoughts. It should be clear when they read you that they are talking to (reading the profile of) a person with common sense who can rise above for various topics and has been raised by a wealthy or at least respectable family, with a good etiquette. All that should translate within your words.
Everyone understands that "drug free" means "drug abuse free" or no junkie. .
Do they? I think some use it to mean "illegal drug free," i.e. booze and prescription painkillers are okay but pot isn't. Or worse, "The drugs I use are okay but the drugs you use aren't."
When meant as "drug abuse free," I agree that's a very smart criterion.
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Originally Posted by Gasolin
"Lives within 30 miles" is also important, you want to be able to date the person easily.
If you live in a rural area or fairly isolated small city, or even at the far edge of a major sprawling metropolitan area, you may not have very many choices within 30 miles. That's the reality. You can consider it to be "important" if you want, but that won't make it any less limiting.
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Originally Posted by Gasolin
However, as being educated does not necessarily mean being progressive or liberal
We either have different definitions of "educated" or different definitions of "progressive and liberal," If you think either allows for small-mindedness or bigotry.
When I say drug free, in my criteria, I exclude drugs prescribed by their physician, taken in the direction prescribed by a medical professional.
I equally don't want to date pot users or those that abuse prescription drugs.
I only date within my race. I have made exceptions and dated 1/2 Puerto Rican if they were raised in the US. I basically want some one from my culture, that does not speak English as a secondary language.
The only criteria I would consider "unreasonable" are "American" and "White" as that might have a connotation. However, as being educated does not necessarily mean being progressive or liberal, well, you may just be a very "conservative", educated person, for what it means.
When I see this I think the person has racial, possible racist issues. Most likely bigoted. Attractive people occur in all races/ethnic groups.
Total turnoff, even though I'm white. Back click.
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Originally Posted by LowonLuck
I only date within my race. I have made exceptions and dated 1/2 Puerto Rican if they were raised in the US. I basically want some one from my culture, that does not speak English as a secondary language.
This right wing / narrow minded viewpoint is a turn off to educated professionals, or most of them that I've met. Including me. I fit your criteria but would reject you on these views alone. You're not a person I would want to be around.
Last edited by mustelid1971; 11-20-2014 at 06:46 AM..
When I say drug free, in my criteria, I exclude drugs prescribed by their physician, taken in the direction prescribed by a medical professional.
I equally don't want to date pot users or those that abuse prescription drugs.
So my suspicion was correct-- you exclude the most widely abused drugs, but include one of the least harmful ones. Between that and the racist/xenophobic BS, you're not exactly showing yourself to be a brainiac here. I don't think people are going to buy your faked education for long.
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