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Old 11-15-2014, 06:02 PM
 
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I am in my 40s and single .When I am out and about my town (the supermarket, the gym, stores) I see mostly younger women(20s and 30s). Other than some friendly chit chat I have rarely attempted to approach them. In past years I always dated older women but now I meet so few of them and my dating options seem very limited.

One of the reason I never dated younger women was because I have never wanted children so I always felt like I would be wasting their time. I just always assumed that sooner or later a younger women would want children and to get involved with them would be leading them on. I think I would like to get married at some point but since I am just getting back into dating I would like to start again slow.

But do I avoid all these younger women I see? I hate feeling so boxed in with what feels like limited dating opportunities. I have a cousin who is past 60 and she dates guys much younger than she is and she is having a blast. I am younger than her and I feel like the creepy old guy for even saying hellow to a younger woman.

I will continue to look for a woman my age(or older as well) to date but I hate feeling like I have to write off younger women to the point that I probably avoid them a lot of the time and act uptight when I do have conversations with them.

Any suggestions as to what to do?And I fully recognize that many will just think I am an older guy trying to "score" but I really am in a spot right now that seems hard to get out of. I have never been great at talking to women period but it did seem easier in my 30s than now. So its not that I am looking to meet younger women specifically but I hate avoiding them and feeling so uptight when I am around them.

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Old 11-15-2014, 07:05 PM
 
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Join some type of outdoor activity group like hiking, kayaking, etc. I have found that the VAST majority of women I meet at such activities are late 40's to late 50's, usually divorced with college age or older children and generally pleasant to talk to and looking to start some type of relationship. You are probably looking in the wrong places.
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Old 11-15-2014, 07:14 PM
 
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Join some type of outdoor activity group like hiking, kayaking, etc. I have found that the VAST majority of women I meet at such activities are late 40's to late 50's, usually divorced with college age or older children and generally pleasant to talk to and looking to start some type of relationship. You are probably looking in the wrong places.

Thank you! I have a feeling you're right about looking in the wrong places and I am interested in getting more involved in outdoor activities and the age range you mentioned is my preference.
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Old 11-15-2014, 07:17 PM
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Try new spots, I'm not well versed in your age category, but I'm sure once you find a local with one or two you can pick more on where they like to hang out.
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