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You sound beautiful inside and out and like you know your worth. Don't let the frogs discourage you...it may help to view these few bad dates as learning experiences. You now probably have a series of topics and questions you'll want to bring up before meeting in person to see if you at least share a moral/lifestyle groundwork with your future dates.
As for when they try to pressure you to meet ASAP, you tell their butts to get in line unless they've got the credentials to cut to the front!
Yeah... The cancer survivor guy for sure. Funny thing is he has 2 kids 1 month apart. Of course 2 baby mamas. So I was quite surprised that HE would be a bible thumper. He kids are now in college so that was a long time ago... But still I was taken aback that he would be so overly religious... Which is different than spiritual.
Okay thank you thank you thank you!!! I was beginning to think it was me and something I was doing wrong.
I feel siooooo much better reading this. Yes! I am getting this same kind of thing. From day 1. And when I draw my boundaries. They stop communicating. I really thought I was going something wrong.
No, you're doing something right! I posted this before, but you just have to assume there will be a lot of people who won't be a match. You screen out as many as you can before the in-person meeting, and try to narrow the field down to those who sound reasonable. Some emailing or phone conversations will help you screen. Still, out of the ones that make it to the actual meet/greet, a small minority will be compatible. This is a search for a needle (or two) in a haystack that you've embarked upon. Be strong. It's not you, it's them. Pushiness, btw, is a red flag. ignoring your boundaries.
Now, if you start meeting some great guys, and it seems like the dates go well, but they disappear after the 2nd or 3rd date, then come back to us and see if maybe it might not be them, it could be you. But at this early stage, it's clear you've just hit a bad batch (very common), and you're not used to drawing and maintaining your boundaries, your selection mechanism, and all that basic stuff.
You sound beautiful inside and out and like you know your worth. Don't let the frogs discourage you...it may help to view these few bad dates as learning experiences. You now probably have a series of topics and questions you'll want to bring up before meeting in person to see if you at least share a moral/lifestyle groundwork with your future dates.
As for when they try to pressure you to meet ASAP, you tell their butts to get in line unless they've got the credentials to cut to the front!
AMEN! Wait...
Man, it's so hard to date again after a divorce. It really is. So much changes when you're off the market. No one did OLD really, when I met my ex-hub, and in the 7 years we were together, everything changed. Even now, after my last relationship, a lot changed with all of this blasted texting. No one did that 8 years ago. I hate it. And NO, I don't want a peen pic!
OP, at least you haven't gotten one of those. A lot of women do, unsolicited. Knuckleheads automatically think we'll like it.
lol!! I haven't even mentioned the one who wanted to meet me for only 5 minutes... No date.
Lmao. It turns out he wanted to see me in person but not spend a dime. And if I didn't look right... He could just drive off.
After asking for even more pictures. He decided that he woukd definitely want to meet me.... ��.
I couldn't wait to tell him off. I called him shallow or cheap or both. He couldn't even arrange for a cup of coffee???? How tacky. He was promptly blocked.
I've heard of POF and OKC and I avoid them. Thought by going with paid service would be better
I guess I may try eharmony or match.com.
I will say Match was a disappointment. Same oafs, only with money.
eHarmony may be your best bet. It's fairly expensive, but it's pretty convoluted and the members have to work to make a connection with you. Just be aware that a lot of people there are looking for marriage, and if you're recently divorced, you may not want that. Maybe wait until they have a free communication weekend and try it. My guess is they'll have one, soon, over Thanksgiving weekend. They often run them over holiday weekends.
Aight, it's 2:30 a.m. where I am. I need sleep. Good luck!
OP, at least you haven't gotten one of those. A lot of women do, unsolicited. Knuckleheads automatically think we'll like it.
I've only been sent a peen once, and it obviously was the only sign I needed to launch that eligible bachelor. However, I didn't want him to get away with thinking it was okay, so I did the only rational thing there was to do.
I sent him a photo courtesy of Google images of a larger, prettier schlong with no explanation. He got angry and asked why I would send such a thing. I asked him the same exact question: Why would YOU send such a thing!?
I've only been sent a peen once, and it obviously was the only sign I needed to launch that eligible bachelor. However, I didn't want him to get away with thinking it was okay, so I did the only rational thing there was to do.
I sent him a photo courtesy of Google images of a large, prettier schlong with no explanation. He got angry and asked why I would send such a thing. I asked him the same exact question: Why would YOU send such a thing!?
WOW! Amazing response! This is one for the books!
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