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Old 11-17-2014, 09:10 AM
 
Location: In my head
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My ex girlfriend would like to remain close friends even though she cheated on me. I was in love with her and wanted to get marry her. We had a connection that I've never had with anyone else I've been in a relationship with. The great thing about our relationship was that we were REALLY great friends and could do mostly everything together. Our sex life started out good and then it went downhill, we talked about it and we tried to work on it but it just got worst. She was more experienced and was frustrated with giving me direction, as was I with taking them. She ended up cheating on me. Well after I discovered I broke up with her, but she would like to remain friends. Plus we are kind of in the same circle of friends. Is this a yes or a no?
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Old 11-17-2014, 09:48 AM
 
Location: Freiburg
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No. I'd slap that ***** and move on.
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Old 11-17-2014, 12:29 PM
 
Location: Monnem Germany/ from San Diego
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Some of my ex´s are among my closest friends, others not so much. Stay friends with who you want.

OTOH maybe you just need to to get a bit of practice ynd you can try again later.
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Old 11-17-2014, 05:21 PM
 
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That's on you. If you think you can do it without catching feelings when she's dating someone else (or vice versa), then I go for it I guess. I depends on whether you can properly detach from your romantic yearnings, and whether you can stay friends without getting so close your unusual bond gets in each other's way when it comes to moving on. Most people can't do it, but that does not mean you two are most people.

But do so knowing that if either one of you gets into a serious relationship down the line, your friendship will almost definitely have to end.
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Old 11-17-2014, 05:32 PM
 
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She has shown you that her word means nothing. Not sure why you would want a friend like that.

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No. I'd slap that ***** and move on.
Because raising a hand to a woman is the answer.

May I suggest that you become acquainted with the laws concerning assault?
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Old 11-17-2014, 05:36 PM
 
Location: D.C.
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I've never remained in contact with any exes. There's no way in hell I'd remain friends with one who cheated on me. I seriously don't understand why you would want to.

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Old 11-17-2014, 05:44 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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No. I'd slap that ***** and move on.
Is this how men treat women in Freiburg, where you live?
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Old 11-17-2014, 05:54 PM
 
Location: D.C.
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No. I'd slap that ***** and move on.
No, resorting to violence or some stupid revenge tactic is NEVER right whether you are a man or woman. Slapping her/him, destroying his/her car or getting drunk at a bar and head-butting him/her just makes you look foolish. Just be an adult and move on.
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Old 11-17-2014, 06:00 PM
 
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How long has it been since you broke up? It's difficult for any relationship to convert quickly to friendship, and I'd imagine it would be even more so with the betrayal involved in your situation. Why not take some time to process the breakup and then decide how you feel about moving forward as friends?
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Old 11-17-2014, 06:05 PM
 
Location: New York
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Definitely not. You can't trust her for anything, and being around her will only bring the pain back.
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