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I came home tipsy the other night and noticed I had a message on Facebook from my ex. We were in a relationship for four years. We had fights about getting married, as it was something he claimed he never wanted. It was something I wanted, one because I loved him and wanted us to commit to each other and two, because weddings are my life. I plan them and being surrounded by them all the time made me sad about my own relationship. He broke up with me. We kept each other as friends on Facebook. In I'llMay he got engaged to this other woman he's been dating for under a year. I knew because of his updates. We never contacted each other or liked each others statuses or had contact for a year and a half
I went to bed thinking I was just tipsy and had imagined he messaged me, but in the morning I checked my inbox and saw a few messages from him. It started off with, "Did you know that the first person I thought about as (his wife's name) walked down the aisle was you?" Then he talked about the reception and remembered a story I had told him about this catering disaster I had had to deal with. He said the whole time he thought about me and didnt know why. His last message said, "Get out of my head, Hannah." I havent responded and I dont think he was drunk, and I haven't responded. I feel confused, sad... mostly really confused. I want to respond but I don't know what to say or what he means. I just don't get it.
I don't know if he thought about me because he associates me with weddings or if he regrets anything? I don't know.
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I would not only delete the entire conversation thread on FB, but also un-friend him and actively block the guy. This could well open up old feelings you had for him and could start to interfere with your marriage. Best to let bygones be bygones...
He got married after dating for year. After you guys dated for 4 years and split due to him not wanting marriage.
My guess is his wife was a rebound. (Poor gal)
He is figuring things out.
He reached out to you by his text, as distasteful as it was.
He is realizing where he messed up with you.
It happens. Us humans and all our emotions and fears.
But don't reciprocate. For your well being, his new wife's, and for his sake.
He needs to do some soul searching and right himself. Sounds like he is starting to.
If you care about your current relationship...let it go. Your marriage will suffer if he hangs around and you allow him to hang around.
When couples have support from a #2 like this it's easy to solve your problems when they arise with the #2 and not with the person they should be solving their problems with.
Delete, unfriend and block. That will solve the issue.
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