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Originally Posted by Sjd1
As I'm sure everybody knows I've posted a few threads about being a older virgin. I've noticed in the search function that there are some others who have posted threads about being virgins as adults as well, this is well into the past of course. One thing I've noticed is that there is always some people, not everyone, who suggests getting an escort. I've always been surprised by this advice since I always figured men who paid for sex disgusted women. So I guess I'd ask all you women out there, would you rather date a guy who has used escorts than an adult virgin? I know you'll probably say you would date neither. In a perfect world neither would exist but in general do you find virgins weirder or more unappealing than a man who uses escorts?
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Id say do whatever you feel like...dont live your life for a womans approval (who in your case doesnt even exist). You think some chick is going to divulge to you that shes had a couple of abortions, or that she gave a bartender head for a free drink somewhere or something?...or an even better question, do you think shes even going to care about what you think about it...?..lol...
But i will say that to be honest, just going by what i see on the ground everyday, i would say at least 30% - 40% of men have visited prostitutes, and this doesnt account for those who have taken that infamous trip to vegas, or amsterdam or those types of special occasions...its VERY evident to me at least, that many men frequent prostitutes regularly...i live in a more openminded city that is known as one of the major sex industry hubs in the U.S...if not THE sex industry hub of america....replete with sex trafficking, prostitute strolls, and massage parlors...its EXTREMELY naive to believe that any sort of overwhelming majority of males have never visited a prostitute before....at least here, you can catch men prowling the streets in the middle of the night, for everything from street walkers to trannys....and they arent bashful about it either...and by the time you factor in the men who have slipped a stripper an extra $20 for a private "lap dance", id venture to say that 30% number inches much closer to 40%....and i noticed that foreign men or men who have immigrated from abroad are MUCH more bold and comfortable (accustomed to? ) with paying for sex in the U.S. This may be because of the largely conservative, still sexually repressed, mindset of most americans, or something...because youll see these foreigners pull up to a streetwalker with no reservations. And surprisingly (to me at least) the tranny patrons are a much more prevalent phenomenon than i wouldve initially thought. ..nowhere near as close to the number of men who see female prostitutes, but it certainly appears to be a larger number of men than what i figured would patronize trannies...
But one thing i noticed is that the more liberal we become about sex and sexuality as an american society, we actually expect str8 men to adhere MORE closely to traditionally conservative/gender roles....from what i can tell, we've reached a point in American society where straight males are really the only ones who are expected to exercise any kind of sexual restraint/discretion...
Cant have sex with a drunk chick, because thats rape...cant have sex with a prostitute, because thats gross and impure/unholy etc....cant hit a woman back for hitting you, because thats considered being abusive..a man sleeps with an underaged girl, and hes a pedophile who gets a 6 year sentence, a woman sleeps with an underage boy and gets a slap on the wrist....cant demand that a woman pay for a date everytime, because thats considered being a cheapskate. ( spare me the anecdotal references to some isolated incident where some chick paid for your slice of cheesecake..lol). Its gotten to where only str8 men are expected to be perfect gentlemen who mind their manners and adhere to their social conditioning/gender construct.
But at the end of the day your only immediate concern should be how comfortable you are in whichever decision you choose..always be kind to others but never live your life based on anxiety and the fear of what MAY happen, or what some chick MAY think in the future...if need be, move to a city that is less conservative where the women wouldnt have such sexual hangups about their partners...because all that matters is your own happiness, and contentment in the here and now, until that happiness directly hurts another person. Good luck in your next relationship man.
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