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You will need to self-reflect as to why you invested a lot of time, energy and emotion into someone who did not do the same in return. This is tough, because you have to actually put work into understanding yourself and taking control of your emotions instead of allowing them to control you. You also have to have a grasp on separating fantasy from reality, because you built this guy up in your mind and fed off of your fantasies of how you imagined him to be.
Yes KitKat I've been down that road. To fall for someone, only to discover that they couldn't care less about me. Easier said than done to just cut that person off. It takes time, but you'll get over him. I'm sorry that you're going thru this (((hugs)))
Everyone has gone through this. My unrequited love number is very high. Though I should say unrequited crushes.
But I had no choice but to move on, since the guys I like couldn't have cared less about me. It mainly hurt my self-esteem.
It's been 1 year, but you'll get over him. How long just varies for people. Maybe just keep busy with hobbies, school/work, dating different guys. You started off great by deleting him, and deciding no contact. Many people get stuck on that step and start with no contact only to break it 1st chance they get.
In this same situation.... So I'm watching the responses with interest....
I can't even delete from contact because as Vanilla said... I would break the no contact the first opportunity presented.
What's worst is I compare new potentials to this guy... and they don't come close to measuring up. (hmmm didn't come out right...) I mean they aren't gentlemen, don't open the doors, or controling or judmental or insecure.
It has been one year.....one would think I'd get over him already.
But there is a first step to everything.
Today is DAY 1:
Deleted him from contact list yesterday.
Avoid contact - can't contact him because I don't remember his phone #
Day 1 after a year?
You should have deleted him a year ago.
It is your own fault you have not moved on because you did not want to move on.
When you get tired of digging your rut deeper you will actually wonder why you have wasted so much of your life for nothing.
It has been one year.....one would think I'd get over him already.
But there is a first step to everything.
Today is DAY 1:
Deleted him from contact list yesterday.
Avoid contact - can't contact him because I don't remember his phone #
Yes that's a good start. I know it's not easy to get over someone, especially if you had loved him more deeply but you are going in the right direction. You have made the decision now you just have to live up to it.
Yes that's a good start. I know it's not easy to get over someone, especially if you had loved him more deeply but you are going in the right direction. You have made the decision now you just have to live up to it.
I think this must also be an age thing. I had a few unrequited loves when I was a teenager but it was something I grew out of.
When you have a more mature mindset, you realize a crush isn't love, and loving someonethat you aren't in a relationship is not love and is a waste of time.
Investing in someone who doesn't return your feelings is you making a choice that hurts yourself, not the other person doing something to you because they don't have the feelings you wish they did.
I think this must also be an age thing. I had a few unrequited loves when I was a teenager but it was something I grew out of.
When you have a more mature mindset, you realize a crush isn't love, and loving someonethat you aren't in a relationship is not love and is a waste of time.
Investing in someone who doesn't return your feelings is you making a choice that hurts yourself, not the other person doing something to you because they don't have the feelings you wish they did.
TRUTH. Please read this last line again and again, OP. I am trying to get over someone right now too and it really hurts. But life is short and you have to let go for your own happiness. You are only hurting yourself.
I think this must also be an age thing. I had a few unrequited loves when I was a teenager but it was something I grew out of.
When you have a more mature mindset, you realize a crush isn't love, and loving someonethat you aren't in a relationship is not love and is a waste of time.
Investing in someone who doesn't return your feelings is you making a choice that hurts yourself, not the other person doing something to you because they don't have the feelings you wish they did.
This, all of it
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