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There are two types of men. Guys that watch porn and guys that lie about watching porn. LOL
But in all seriousness, I've never met a guy that didn't watch porn in this Internet era. Not one. And if I did, would question his sanity. Suppressing these types of urges will **** a guys head up. This is why people in places like the middle east are so bonkers. It's because of religious oppression.
I don't watch porn. When I have an "urge", I go for my gf. That's what they're for, ya know. What do you do when you get an urge at work? Watch porn at work? Get over it, man. Just because you got an urge doesn't mean life has to come to a crashing halt while you drop everything and check out some porn. How old are you, anyway?
Your title is that he's lying about everything, your post says he's lying only about porn. If you know he's lying...and he knows you know he's lying...is it really a lie or just a way to avoid an uncomfortable topic?
You put up this pretense that you're all "Yay! Go Porn!" but you just admitted that you don't really like it...if you don't really like it, then you'd be doing it for his benefit and some guys are fine with that and some guys aren't. If he likes it, knows you don't, then despite your avows that you're okay with all of it, I doubt that your reaction is like that. Since the lie is obvious and he knows it's obvious, are you really discussing the "lie" or are you more condemning the porn?
I don't know your situation, I don't know your body language when you're discussing this...but I have friends that are in your situation and when they talk about their husbands watching porn, they purse their lips together, they get this judgmental tone in their voice and the second they're called out on it, it's all, "I'm totally fine with the porn...it's just that he's hiding it from me!"
Hi I am new here. I have read many discussions about husbands and porn, lying etc. Here is where I stand. I'm 28 and my husband is 43. I know all men look at porn. Its common. I don't really get mad about it. I get mad about him lying and being deceitful about it. Let me start here. When we first met I was the one who instigated sex. I have a high sex drive. I have told him many times I'm very sexual. He knows this by now. We've been together four yrs and married one. I've offered to buy and watch porn together. I've taken photos and made home flix with him. I wear lingerie for him. I pretty much do anything and everything he wants except anal. Just not ready for it. We overall have a healthy sex life. Most of the time we have sex every night. But he swears he isn't looking at porn and I find it. He hides it. He lies about it. He one time said it was an email. He doesn't have email. This really isn't about porn. Its just about the lying. No I don't like porn. I will watch it if he wants but he refuses to have me look at it with him. He refuses to.include me knowing that I'm open with alot of things. I don't get it. What should I do??
I don't think this is really about him lying, it's about you feeling shut out of part of his sex life. Really, as long as that part of his sex life only includes him, and not other people, what's wrong with him having a little bit of privacy? The reason people still masturbate when they're in a relationship isn't that they don't desire their partner, it's because sex with a partner requires a certain amount of work. Masturbation is simple, you already know how to please yourself the best way, you don't have to worry about trying to satisfy someone whose parts are more complicated than your own, you don't have to think about anything except the pleasure of the moment. So masturbation is relaxing for a lot of people, more relaxing than sex with a partner. And if he has complicated fantasies that he indulges in (the lingerie thing) or watches porn, so what?
I suspect that it's not the porn that's the problem, but the content of the porn. He may be watching gay porn or something that he knows will probably end the relationship. He may be watching guys in women's underwear or something. I have this refrain running in my head as I read this: "Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies."
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