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You've been together for 25 years, so the question: has he always treated you this way or just recently? Is there anything that is going on in his life like troubles at work or something?
You've been together for 25 years, so the question: has he always treated you this way or just recently? Is there anything that is going on in his life like troubles at work or something?
It's been up and down the entire time. There were other things that happened that take too long to mention. (he's been in trouble with the law, DUI's) He left 7 years ago without notice. He said we were done and he ended up getting involved with another woman for a month. I agreed to try to work it out and that's when we went to counseling. He has been faithful since then. He just has a lot of guilt from the past and won't let it go. He says he regrets it every day of his life. I don't bring it up though.
He's not happy where he is in life. He regrets not going to college and knows his job isn't going anywhere. When he has to deal with problems, he'd rather go in the bedroom and shut the door or his answer is to leave. He's told me he no longer wants to be part of a relationship and just wants to be left alone. He said he wants his own place so he doesn't have to answer to anyone. He just wants to live the simple life.
I knew this situation sounded awfully familiar. OP, I don't think there's any more advice we can give you that we didn't already provide a couple of months ago on this thread:
The kids just go with the flow. My disability case is still in appeals. The attorney said it probably will be at least another year before we hear anything. I appreciate the advice.
I agree with the respect thing. Yes, I am filing for disability.
I'm sorry, your living situation sounds horrible.
He has said he does not love you. All the other things you quibble over, who does what, who says what.... doesn't matter. You can choose to continue living this way, or work towards leaving. He's not in love with you, and therefore has no motivation to change.
Understand that you have an either/or situation. Leave or stay. There are agencies that will help you if you decide to change your life.
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Lady, you just posted this same situation two months ago. Please refer back to your earlier thread for advice.
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