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Im very emotional and I usually bring up a sore subject for him and its like he goes nuts and when I try to calm him down he gets even more mad till he says go to bed im done talking and thats that.
Ah. I'd roll over and go to sleep too after 3 years of being aggravated like that.
Of course, I'd be in my own bed, in my own place, and you wouldn't be my girlfriend anymore.
Stop poking the bear for crying out loud. Once a week, for 3 years, you bring up a sore subject for him, and you can't see what his problem is?
I sure hope it's something worth bugging him for, like not working, or being a junkie or something.
SO My bf and I, who have been together 3 years, always seem to get into an argument around bed time, and like the story above, I sometimes cry and he just tells me(usually pissed off yelling) to go to bed and rolls over and falls asleep....while im still crying!!! Ive talked to him many times about him not comforting me and it seems like he gets even more annoyed when I get emotional. I feel terribly lonely when we fight and often get depressed. He on the other hand sleeps through the night and acts like nothing happened the next day. I often think when im lying next to him asleep if we can really be together. How can two people be together when one doesnt aupport the other mentally physically and emotionally.
Im very emotional and I usually bring up a sore subject for him and its like he goes nuts and when I try to calm him down he gets even more mad till he says go to bed im done talking and thats that.
If you don't want to fight at bedtime, don't start fights at bedtime.
I definitely dont cry for attention. Im just an emotional person. Hes not mean to me and we are great most of the time. We fight over sex issues which I get emotional about and he is insecure with himself which makes the fights even worse. Im just trying to figure out if a relationship that is mostly solid can work without the emotional comforting .......
Im very emotional and I usually bring up a sore subject for him and its like he goes nuts and when I try to calm him down he gets even more mad till he says go to bed im done talking and thats that.
All right...I am going to try to say this gently. It sounds very, very much like you are deliberately provoking a fight so that you can cry, so that he now owes you comfort.
I definitely dont cry for attention. Im just an emotional person. Hes not mean to me and we are great most of the time. We fight over sex issues which I get emotional about and he is insecure with himself which makes the fights even worse. Im just trying to figure out if a relationship that is mostly solid can work without the emotional comforting .......
I just can't figure out why he doesn't want to wipe your tears.
I definitely dont cry for attention. Im just an emotional person. Hes not mean to me and we are great most of the time. We fight over sex issues which I get emotional about and he is insecure with himself which makes the fights even worse. Im just trying to figure out if a relationship that is mostly solid can work without the emotional comforting .......
First, you need to understand that his comforting you is not the most important thing here.
You two have a communication problem, and a "mostly solid" relationship cannot work with that.
If you have a sex problem that he is insecure about already, you laying there CRYING IN BED is not going to make HIM sympathetic. Understand??
A couples counselor will help you learn how to talk about this delicate problem. It sounds like you're making it worse by handling it the way you do.
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