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Old 12-04-2014, 03:24 AM
 
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The above. The woman I lost it to liked me enough to take her time with me it took a few year abs a half of talking online till we met I changed my plans a bit as I was going to go to Fiji but changed them to Mexico. Anyways the first 2 days was holding hands then the 3rd more snuggling this lead to her wanting to kiss o wasn't ready she was cool with that so she kissed me everywhere but the lips and just asked me to relax. Well as others said just let things happen I ended up feeling her up as she encouraged me. I feeled her up on her breasts she was great she guided my hands at first and showed me by guiding how hard she likes. She loved it at the end she jumped on top of me and wanted sex I wasn't ready and wanted to do it the next day. The next day she guided me again and her encourage ment lead to me kissing her for the first time she siaf before the feeling her up, kissing ect that if I can't do this I won't be ready for sex. She was 100% right and I was right to chose her to lose it to. Wait for your chance with the right woman , if she likes you enough any woman would treat you how this one did with me. Get over this stage in your life and good luck.
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Old 12-04-2014, 12:50 PM
 
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are most men born with the social-skills, conversation-skills and flirting-skills, leading skills for attracting women, getting a girlfriend? since it seems the vast majority of guys have their first girlfriend, lose their virginity by their late teens or early 20's
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Old 12-04-2014, 01:12 PM
 
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It sounds like you have a lot of other things going for you. You have a good job you enjoy, you own a home, you get along with your family, etc. You should focus on those things. You can either try to put yourself out there and start dating, or next thing you know you'll still be one at 40. My advice to you as a woman is - don't tell her. Or at least don't tell her until you're dating and you know she has an investment in you. And my other piece of advice is - do NOT go to an escort. Don't do it. Go to a big city all weekend and have a one night stand if you need to, but don't pay someone. If I ever found out a guy I was dating had been to one, that would be it. Way worse to me than finding out he was a virgin.
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Old 12-04-2014, 01:19 PM
 
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My advice to you as a woman is - don't tell her. Or at least don't tell her until you're dating and you know she has an investment in you.
Let me ask you a hypothetical. Say a woman friend of yours comes to you while you're single and says she has good guy for you, only problem is is that he is a virgin in his 30's. All else considered would the virginity really be a deal-breaker?
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Old 12-04-2014, 01:50 PM
 
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are most men born with the social-skills, conversation-skills and flirting-skills, leading skills for attracting women, getting a girlfriend? since it seems the vast majority of guys have their first girlfriend, lose their virginity by their late teens or early 20's
I would watch what you are implying I didn't lack them.
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Old 12-04-2014, 01:56 PM
 
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I would watch what you are implying I didn't lack them.
if you didn't lack them do you feel they were always natural for you?
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Old 12-04-2014, 02:12 PM
 
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The above. The woman I lost it to liked me enough to take her time with me it took a few year abs a half of talking online till we met I changed my plans a bit as I was going to go to Fiji but changed them to Mexico. Anyways the first 2 days was holding hands then the 3rd more snuggling this lead to her wanting to kiss o wasn't ready she was cool with that so she kissed me everywhere but the lips and just asked me to relax. Well as others said just let things happen I ended up feeling her up as she encouraged me. I feeled her up on her breasts she was great she guided my hands at first and showed me by guiding how hard she likes. She loved it at the end she jumped on top of me and wanted sex I wasn't ready and wanted to do it the next day. The next day she guided me again and her encourage ment lead to me kissing her for the first time she siaf before the feeling her up, kissing ect that if I can't do this I won't be ready for sex. She was 100% right and I was right to chose her to lose it to. Wait for your chance with the right woman , if she likes you enough any woman would treat you how this one did with me. Get over this stage in your life and good luck.
Although this is a sweet story, and probably encouraging to a few, it's not normal. You have to admit that spending 3 days with a woman you have traveled thousands of miles to see and are attracted to and still not be ready to kiss or even touch her is... strange... To have to be manhandled in order to touch her breasts? To have a willing woman on top of you and still not be ready to go further?

Sorry, but there is something else going on in your head, as that is not a natural human response.

I have to ask. You may have lost your virginity technically, but, are you sure that is what you wanted or even enjoyed? Do you have a fear of intimacy?
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Old 12-14-2014, 08:33 AM
 
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I wonder what a guy like the OP should say to a woman when she asks him about his past dating life
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Old 12-14-2014, 08:49 AM
 
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To the OP -

Wait 10 years and you can make your own remake of the 40-year old virgin. OK, that was a joke in poor taste, but I couldn't resist. Sorry.

Maybe you just need to broaden you view on acceptance. Maybe, outside of the words you've put down here, you might be over critical or looking too deep once you meet a woman, and are not allowing yourself to get past some sort of blockage that is preventing you from getting into bed with a female.
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Old 12-14-2014, 08:08 PM
 
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Why do we never see these posts from females?
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