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You were with your ex at the time so it's not like she cheated on you. You're just pissed she was banging somebody instead of being all down in the dumps about you banging your girlfriend. Suck it up, buttercup, not all of us chicks are wallflowers and doormats. At least she came clean about it.
You were with your ex at the time so it's not like she cheated on you. You're just pissed she was banging somebody instead of being all down in the dumps about you banging your girlfriend. Suck it up, buttercup, not all of us chicks are wallflowers and doormats. At least she came clean about it.
That's my feeling on it too, and I hope that's not narrow of me, but...I mean...come on.
Uh. What? You said you'd have broken up with her if you'd known about NY. Right? I didn't say you broke up with her because she went to the music festival...?
I think you're not reading clearly and are not really understanding. I never said you'd have broken up with her for going to the music festival. Unless I'm the one who's not understanding? And you said you'd have broken up with her if you knew about NY. Isn't that correct? And I said she knew that and that's why she lied to you about it.
Let me clear this up for you.
She hooked up with him at the festival that she met him at. I would not have walked away knowing that information.
I don't know what you expect people to tell you. Don't go out with a liar. Once someone lies to you dump them. Liars don't make good partners. How is any of this news to you?
Besides, the OP was hooking up with his EX. This girl just did what any confident chick would do, she went and got her some, since he went back to his EX.
Again, OP, you're not going to get the answers you appear to want here. You had a hand in this situation by going back to your EX and telling this girl you basically were only banging her until your EX would. Then when your EX dumped you again, you went back to this girl and why should she bother telling you anything? You were with your EX during that time.
Besides, the OP was hooking up with his EX. This girl just did what any confident chick would do, she went and got her some, since he went back to his EX.
Again, OP, you're not going to get the answers you appear to want here. You had a hand in this situation by going back to your EX and telling this girl you basically were only banging her until your EX does.
The lies are the problem. Period. I was honest. She was not.
Besides, the OP was hooking up with his EX. This girl just did what any confident chick would do, she went and got her some, since he went back to his EX.
Again, OP, you're not going to get the answers you appear to want here. You had a hand in this situation by going back to your EX and telling this girl you basically were only banging her until your EX would. Then when your EX dumped you again, you went back to this girl and why should she bother telling you anything? You were with your EX during that time.
I get you're trying to flame me here, but I broke up with my ex, we started talking again and I realized it truly wasn't what I wanted. So chill with the inflammatory. I'm not trying to dog women. I'm trying to have a civil discussion and you're just trying to get under my skin.
Can't say I'm surprised at the women brushing off the lies and considering getting caught lying coming clean.
Not brushing anything off. I thought you were asking for our thoughts. Mine were an explanation of why things may have happened the way they did. For the THIRD TIME I will reiterate that I do not think what she did was awesome. However...Oh well. I thought you were genuinely asking for input.
No, lying isn't good. There can be reasons but not excuses. I gave reasons and you confirmed them (i.e. you would have dumped her if you'd known at the time...and she had NO assurance that you were going to stay anyway).
Is "deceit" okay pre-commitment? Well, I'm not enamored at the idea of deceit but frankly...neither of you owes the other 100% transparency if you don't have a commitment. I am sorry, but this is really coming off as: you wanted the freedom to bounce back and forth between her and the ex, you didn't want her to have that freedom (you'd "100%" have dumped her if you'd known), and now well after the fact, you're angry that it wasn't ultimately all your choice after all (i.e. she was feeling other people out and she could have been the one to dump you rather than the other way around).
It just sounds like sour grapes.
Being lied to isn't fun. I am not saying you're not allowed to have your feelings. Obviously, you are. But it's over. She's not actively lying to you, she's not hurting you now. Some people lie. Avoid those people. Other people don't lie. Gravitate toward those people. That's all you, or any one of us, can do.
Her only mistake was that she told you all the details. Of course you now think she is a bad person because she fabricated such a story around it. I don't blame you for what you think about her now.
You were 'hooking up' with one while working on getting back with 2.
She probably did not feel like you were taking her and your 'relationship' seriously, so if you could still have #2 on the side, so could she.
Ah well...it's over...water under the bridge. Move on.
Too many problems occur in relationships these days because of too much 'hooking up'. IMO.
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