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I've dating a guy (age28) for 3 months. Last week, we had a serious talk over the phone. He said these things to me:
“You really help me think a lot about myself, not sure what triggered it. But I’ve been in self reflection mode since meeting you. You bring the old me back, the adventurous, energetic e, ambitious, me.”
And then we started talking about our relationship. He says:
“I didn’t want to like someone and wasn’t even looking to want to like someone. But it’s funny how life works because I think when you want something, it almost blinds you. But when you’re not looking for something, at times, it’s almost really clear.”
Then he continues to say, “I want to say…wait..have to give myself a good shake.. (he sounded like he had something big to say)”
“I’m kind of scared. I'm falling so hard. I’ve always been a guy who likes to reason things out, head over heart. I’m never quick to speak but I listen first and think and then respond. Because I always felt like thinking rationally is to think with your head and not with your heart. But it’s crazy because I like you a lot. As I’m getting to know you I’m liking you more and more. So this obviously new territory for me. I’ve never felt like this before with any girl..”
WHAT I don't get is how he's never had these feelings for a girl before when his last relationship was with his friend for over 2 years. Is this guy lying to me??
OMG..you are over thinking things. There are tons of people who have dated all their lives yet can meet someone and feel a connection they have never felt before. Perfectly normal. And unless the guy is doing other things that make you question him, or you know some seedy history on him or something, I don't see why you would be so quick to question whether he was being honest. Just see how he ACTS..because in the long run, THAT is what will matter. Does his ACTIONS match his words.
I've dating a guy (age28) for 3 months. Last week, we had a serious talk over the phone. He said these things to me:
“You really help me think a lot about myself, not sure what triggered it. But I’ve been in self reflection mode since meeting you. You bring the old me back, the adventurous, energetic e, ambitious, me.”
And then we started talking about our relationship. He says:
“I didn’t want to like someone and wasn’t even looking to want to like someone. But it’s funny how life works because I think when you want something, it almost blinds you. But when you’re not looking for something, at times, it’s almost really clear.”
Then he continues to say, “I want to say…wait..have to give myself a good shake.. (he sounded like he had something big to say)”
“I’m kind of scared. I'm falling so hard. I’ve always been a guy who likes to reason things out, head over heart. I’m never quick to speak but I listen first and think and then respond. Because I always felt like thinking rationally is to think with your head and not with your heart. But it’s crazy because I like you a lot. As I’m getting to know you I’m liking you more and more. So this obviously new territory for me. I’ve never felt like this before with any girl..”
WHAT I don't get is how he's never had these feelings for a girl before when his last relationship was with his friend for over 2 years. Is this guy lying to me??
Completely agree with Summerfall, you ARE overthinking this.
Look, the truth is, time will tell. And time IS your friend here.
Don't listen to what a man says so much as watch what he does.
If he is lying to you his behavior will eventually show that.
Each relationship situation is always going to be new territory. Like a new job, unless you are in the same exact relationship, the current relationship is always new and different from any others ever previously experienced. Obviously you do not feel the same way as he does as your initial reaction is disbelief and skepticism when you were supposed to trust. Unless you have a change of heart this relationship has a very limited and short lifespan ahead of it.
All of his statements are "me, me, me." This is what I want, this is how I feel, this is what I've been looking for, I've been looking deeply into myself, I, I, I, me, me, me.
Where does the "you" come in?
Or maybe I'm just in a witchy-with-a-B mood tonight. But seriously, that would turn me off. "I like being with you because you make me think even more about me."
i could swear i replied to this exact same thread like weeks ago
yet i see it was just posted a short time ago
and to answer your question, you just like who you like and the degree varies. if it didnt.. then men would just be with one woman for life and be content with it
why cant a man be sincere w/o being suspected of lying
why cant a man be sincere w/o being suspected of lying
we just cant win
Sometimes cads of both sexes take advantage of sincerity and treat it as a weakness to be exploited. They ruin it for everybody.
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