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The women at the library can be some of the easiest to meet (in my experience). As far as sounding stalker-ish. A couple of them ladies say some pretty stalker-ish things to me.
One of the ladies I keep contact with. She approached me and kept coming. I eventually fell for her. The other one is married, so I don't want to break my code of honor.
OP, I would talk to her. Just keep it casual. Let it build slow. If anything happens, then it happens. Otherwise, life goes on. You'll meet another woman that catches your attention.
The women at the library can be some of the easiest to meet (in my experience). As far as sounding stalker-ish. A couple of them ladies say some pretty stalker-ish things to me.
One of the ladies I keep contact with. She approached me and kept coming. I eventually fell for her. The other one is married, so I don't want to break my code of honor.
OP, I would talk to her. Just keep it casual. Let it build slow. If anything happens, then it happens. Otherwise, life goes on. You'll meet another woman that catches your attention.
I work in a library, and if a man came to my desk and flirted with me, I wouldn't care what my coworkers would think. Why would you? In fact, men do come to my desk and flirt with me sometimes. I'm a super nice librarian.
If you really want to speak to her alone, go find a book on a shelf in the far corner of the library, write the call number down on a scrap of paper, move the book one shelf down, then go tell her you can't find the book. She'll go help you find it. I hunt down books for people 100 times per day so no one will think anything of it.
It is also not unusual for people of all kinds to initiate a conversation with a librarian by saying "I really like (name of favorite author) but I've read all those. Can you recommend something for me to read next?"
That's a good approach I used a variation of that in college. It worked pretty good.
Most libraries have programs from time to time. Ask about this, and attend whatever seems interesting.
You could also ask if you could volunteer in some capacity. Maybe you could help the children's librarian prepare materials for craft programs, decorate bulletin boards, etc., if you're artsy. Just relax and drop the formality. Be friendly, not stiff or stalkerish. Smile. Make eye contact. Keep it light. Don't lead with asking the lady out; she's unlikely to go out with someone she doesn't know at all. So get to know her a little first.
I work in a library, and if a man came to my desk and flirted with me, I wouldn't care what my coworkers would think. Why would you? In fact, men do come to my desk and flirt with me sometimes. I'm a super nice librarian.
If you really want to speak to her alone, go find a book on a shelf in the far corner of the library, write the call number down on a scrap of paper, move the book one shelf down, then go tell her you can't find the book. She'll go help you find it. I hunt down books for people 100 times per day so no one will think anything of it.
It is also not unusual for people of all kinds to initiate a conversation with a librarian by saying "I really like (name of favorite author) but I've read all those. Can you recommend something for me to read next?"
Listen to Stagemomma. This is the easiest approach.
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I used a variation of that in college. It worked pretty good.
