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That's actually a good point. I used to approach women without waiting for a signal. Basically, I didn't care about the outcome.
That's the way to do it. That way, if you strike out, it doesn't faze you. You can hit up randoms, but you can also keep your eye out for those signals, and hit up those. You go into it assuming your batting average won't be great, cuz some will be taken, and others won't be into you. But out of 10 or 11, there'll be that one. The one who makes the whole thing worth it. It's not a waste of time if it brings you closer to that one.
That's actually a good point. I used to approach women without waiting for a signal. Basically, I didn't care about the outcome.
Look at it this way. You have a better probability of landing a chick than you have landing a (high-paying) job after college. Are you going to quit college?
Look at it this way. You have a better probability of landing a chick than you have landing a (high-paying) job after college. Are you going to quit college?
I'd opine that this comparison is exactly backwards. There is accurate information available on the employment prospects, starting-salaries and salary-growth in various majors. Pursue the more promising majors, obtain good grades, and job prospects improve markedly. There are no guarantees, but odds improve. The same can not be said for pursuit of relationships.
Moreover, pursuing an education has value beyond mere employment prospects. It's sensible to earn a degree in an employable field, but even if that lucrative job isn't forthcoming, the self-broadening and sharpening of one's mental faculties are worthy ends in themselves. I can't think of a comparable "consolation prize" in a man's pursuit of women.
I'd opine that this comparison is exactly backwards. There is accurate information available on the employment prospects, starting-salaries and salary-growth in various majors. Pursue the more promising majors, obtain good grades, and job prospects improve markedly. There are no guarantees, but odds improve. The same can not be said for pursuit of relationships.
Moreover, pursuing an education has value beyond mere employment prospects. It's sensible to earn a degree in an employable field, but even if that lucrative job isn't forthcoming, the self-broadening and sharpening of one's mental faculties are worthy ends in themselves. I can't think of a comparable "consolation prize" in a man's pursuit of women.
There aren't nearly as many high-paying jobs in existence as there are women (or men for that matter). That's my point. Statistically speaking, and without getting extremely technical, the probability of finding a mate is most likely better.
Look at it this way. You have a better probability of landing a chick than you have landing a (high-paying) job after college. Are you going to quit college?
Nope I'm almost done. I'll be a junior in college starting this spring.
There aren't nearly as many high-paying jobs in existence as there are women (or men for that matter). That's my point. Statistically speaking, and without getting extremely technical, the probability of finding a mate is most likely better.
No argument from me on that regard. Rather, my point is that goals such as securing a remunerative job, becoming a successful investor, a celebrated violinist or basketball player, an eminent surgeon, a Pulitzer-Prize winning reporter and so forth – while difficult to achieve, and rare – can be approached according to a plan, a rubric. Following the plan is no guarantee of success, and luck always intervenes. Nevertheless, there's a chain of causality – A, B, C, D – do well in high school, get scholarships for college, go to a good college, enroll in a promising major, and so forth. Hard work an assiduous dedicated have good likelihood of reward, and in addition, the process itself is rewarding. The process itself improves us, even if the ultimate object (fame, money, influence, …) eludes us.
Well, such practices don't hold with relationships. There is no mountain to climb, from whose summit to shout victory, and women would come flocking. There is no great quest to fulfill, training from which to graduate, insight to glean, honor to attain, whereupon one would find linear and consequent success with the opposite sex.
I'm an aerospace engineer; not exactly a great one, but I do OK. I got there by attending a competitive and high-quality high-school, with excellent teachers who motivated me; then college, then graduate school. All along, I had help. I had colleagues, mentors, textbooks. Whatever knowledge I possess as an engineer, is cumulative; it builds on generations of much smarter men (and women), on their research and their insights. But in the great quest for a romantic partner, we're alone. Self-help literature is vapid and devoid of value. Mentors are absent. Perhaps the greatest challenge ever faced by Man - how not to die alone - remains the most inscrutable and not allayed even by a hundred generations of literature and accumulated "knowledge".
@OP. The vast majority of women (3-10/10) have armies of men wanting to date/have sex with them so of course most are taken.
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Yeah so why bother even trying. Ho hum...Derp.
Nowhere in my most did I say don't try. You know my post is true but you don't like truth. Ho hum...Derp.
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