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Have you never had a one night stand? Its basically allowing him to use you as a spooge receptacle. As for the hooker I've considered it..
No, I haven't. It's not my cup of tea.
If I was in the mood, I took care of things myself.
And folks that have a one night stand KNOW they are both there for one reason only. Your "girlfriend" is just a means to an end for you, or at least that is how you are making this whole scenario sound.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
That when you say, "At this point I just want to get laid," you are not concerned at all about the relationship part of sex. You only need body parts for that, and that is offensive for the person you are "wooing."
Do you really not get that??
I rarely ever say this, but I agree that you should find a way to pay for it and get "it" over with. Don't waste an unsuspecting girl's time and emotional energy.
As I said we've only been dating for a few weeks. How serious do you expect us to get? Why not just have sex and see where it goes from there?
Yeah, but that's best discussed with her, because you don't know her feelings on sex. Some will not do it without love, some want to test drive 1st-have sex, then play it by ear, and some don't want a relationship at all. but it needs to be discussed with her on where you see the relationship going and what your plans are, that way nobody is wasting anyone's time if the plans don't match up. Because sex has no definite time frame. Some are comfortable having it early on, for others it takes time to warm up and even develop the sexual feelings.
Yeah, but that's best discussed with her, because you don't know her feelings on sex. Some will not do it without love, some want to test drive 1st-have sex, then play it by ear, and some don't want a relationship at all. but it needs to be discussed with her on where you see the relationship going and what your plans are, that way nobody is wasting anyone's time if the plans don't match up.
Yes... but there is a danger she'll dump me for being a virgin in my late 20's. I don't see why I can't just have sex and see where it goes from there. I swear one day I'm going to be on this forum posting about being a 40 year old virgin or hell a 50 year old virgin.
As I said we've only been dating for a few weeks. How serious do you expect us to get? Why not just have sex and see where it goes from there?
If I had been dating someone for a few weeks and then found out that the guy was only dating me to use me for sex, I would have absolutely zero respect for him. You're a virgin but you're acting like an a-hole.
Yes... but there is a danger she'll dump me for being a virgin in my late 20's. I don't see why I can't just have sex and see where it goes from there. I swear one day I'm going to be on this forum posting about being a 40 year old virgin or hell a 50 year old virgin.
Once again, she doesn't have to know you're a virgin.
Yes... but there is a danger she'll dump me for being a virgin in my late 20's. I don't see why I can't just have sex and see where it goes from there. I swear one day I'm going to be on this forum posting about being a 40 year old virgin or hell a 50 year old virgin.
If she dumps you over it, she wasn't gonna stick around for a long hall anyhow. And thing is, she may not even have sleeping with you on her mind. She may not love you yet, and won't have sex without love. Then what? You'll be no worse off.
Really, this doesn't have to be as complicated as you make it. She doesn't need to know your whole history. but discussing the present and what you both want NOW, is the key. You can tell her since you've been dating a while, you think it's time to take the relationship to the next step. if she says no, you can further talk from there on what her thoughts are, and where her beliefs lie with sex.
The virgin thing doesn't need to come up until the sex is a definite, and you wanna tell her before you get started that you're not very experienced, and let her lead a bit, ask her what she likes, etc.
Hell, this girl may be a virgin too. But you don't know because you're scared to talk to her. You may not even need to bring up virginity then, if you pay attention to her, and are familiar with a woman's body. There's no reason to be that clueless, even if one is a virgin.
Yes... but there is a danger she'll dump me for being a virgin in my late 20's. I don't see why I can't just have sex and see where it goes from there. I swear one day I'm going to be on this forum posting about being a 40 year old virgin or hell a 50 year old virgin.
Are you not reading what you writing? You are using her. Your only concern is yourself and your virginity. Sounds kind of selfish to me. Again, hire someone...or at least TELL her you are just using her for sex.
Are you not reading what you writing? You are using her. Your only concern is yourself and your virginity. Sounds kind of selfish to me. Again, hire someone...or at least TELL her you are just using her for sex.
OP? Any comment? This quote is the point these folks are trying to drive home.
I say it isn't nice to use people as objects unless they're just using you as an object as well. Even then that's not something I'd choose to do personally. I only want to have sex with someone I love.
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