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Okay. So, this girl named A is my best friend. We know everything about each other, and we've been best friends for 2 years now. I asked her out 1 month ago, and she said she didnt want to be in a relationship. So, we stopped talking for two weeks.
But, that bothered her because she told her friends about how she didnt like how we didnt talk anymore. So, I called her after I went to a party (which I never did before then), and we became friends again.
We talked for the whole week on the phone after that, and I told her about everything I did. Including meeting a girl called K at a party who was really interested in me but I wasnt sure I was interested, but later we went on a date and I started to like her. Meanwhile A was really excited about me partying and kept talking to me about it.
So we went to a party and her friends were being really weird and daring her to kiss me and stuff (they were prob just being catty tbh). After that I went on a date with K which I didnt tell A about until afterwards. Meanwhile, A was telling her friends about how I partied and wanted us to party again. I texted her after hangingout with K one time, and A told me that she was going to buy me a beanie for Hanukkah becasue I really wanted one. I told her that I wanted to celebrate Hanukkah and she said that she was going to throw a Hanukkah party. That was all I heard about it. No invitation. No time. Nothing.
Next, A went to game club at our school and I didnt because I went to go hang out with K. (sidenote: A usually brings food there, but someone called her and was mad that she wasnt there with food. That pissed her off because she felt like she wasnt entitled to bring him anything. I felt like that pertained to this) And A got mad at me for not being there.
The next day, my friend asks me if I was going to A's party and I told him I hadnt heard anything about it because I thought she was just joking. A never made plans or said anything about it, so I assumed it was a joke. This really burned me. I was so mad at A because she always called me her best friend and talks about prtying with me but then she doesnt say a word about this party?
So, I dont know what to do. She invited all of my friends but hasnt said a word to me more about it. Did she assume that she invited me? What should I do?
It's all awkward and weird now because she rejected you.
Prepare yourself for the eventual death of this friendship.
This. If A didn't show any interest in you after two whole years of being friends, you can be certain there was no possibility of a romance between the two of you, ever. It was a rookie mistake on your part to ask her out after all this time.
Let it slide with A and focus on K, as others have said. Live and learn!
I don't understand. Why was she "excited" about you "partying"?
What does that even mean?
I also don't understand how you can call someone your best friend but in actuality have secret romantic feelings for them? That is not a friendship, it's manipulation/exploitation.
I also don't understand how you can call someone your best friend but in actuality have secret romantic feelings for them? That is not a friendship, it's manipulation/exploitation.
That is what men do when they are too afraid to make a move on a woman that they are interested in.
The lie to themselves and settle for being a male bff.
They sit back hoping they will have the courage to make a move one day.
What many of these guys don't realize is the longer they wait the lower their chances drop of getting the girl.
This guy probably had a chance to make a move on this girl.
He hesitated and now she has lost respect for him.
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