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I have a question for the older ladies. Do you find that men your age appreciate what you have to offer or are they mostly going for younger women?
I've noticed that I don't get as much attention as I used to. I'm 45. Whenever I see men who are around my age hanging around with girls in their 20s it makes me wonder what they have that I don't.
I believe I have a lot to offer, such as :
Experience
My own house and car
A career
2 kids
Confidence
I'm more well rounded, experienced and confident than these young girls, so why is it that I'm mostly ignored these days? I honestly don't feel that I'm lacking in anything.
Nope. Most men interested are younger than me. But I don't look my age either
To answer your question: Many older men don't want an older woman with house and carrier.
They want young, pretty chick they can impress
Agreed here. The older guys want the younger women for vanity, then on top of that, they're easier to impress and thus less intimidating, and it gives them an ego boost to think they're better than all the young guys because the girls want them.
Now of course all that is not always the case. There are some older men who just happen to fall for a woman that may be younger. So, no offense to younger ladies who are seriously involved with an older man.
I have a question for the older ladies. Do you find that men your age appreciate what you have to offer or are they mostly going for younger women?
I've noticed that I don't get as much attention as I used to. I'm 45. Whenever I see men who are around my age hanging around with girls in their 20s it makes me wonder what they have that I don't.
I believe I have a lot to offer, such as :
Experience
My own house and car
A career
2 kids
Confidence
I'm more well rounded, experienced and confident than these young girls, so why is it that I'm mostly ignored these days? I honestly don't feel that I'm lacking in anything.
They arent buying a car, they are looking for a relationship. For a great time. Why in the world would you put down "2 kids"? You lost 90% of dating guys with that right there.
I have a friend in her mid 40s who is VERY attractive and looks like she could easily be 10 years younger. Has a great personality, is classy, dresses well, just a very nice and successful woman, zero body fat, you get the picture. She never meets men her age who are interested in her. And she has a great personality, no kids, no baggage. But men in their mid 40s are not looking for an attractive and well accomplished woman their age. It kind of blows my mind. She works in a business that puts her in contact with successful men every day but she says they are either married or divorced and dating much younger women. I have tried to figure out what there might be about her that turns other guys off and cannot come up with anything. She's not needy, possesive, self centered or boring. She's a delight to be with. But her age is against her. Ageism is alive and well = so sad.
They arent buying a car, they are looking for a relationship. For a great time. Why in the world would you put down "2 kids"? You lost 90% of dating guys with that right there.
I overlooked that. But yeah. How old are the 2 kids? If they're in their teens, you may be ok. But 2 younger kids would be a turn-off for older men. Some want their own kids, rather than a ready-made family. And some, being in 40s+ may not want kids at all at that point, and want a good time with just their partner. No responsibilities with children to raise, or help raise.
When I was dating, I pretty much nixed the men with the children. I had dated one with a 6 year old, and a 19 year old. The 19 year old was constantly asking me for money (no, I didn't give her any), and asking me to buy her a car. That was a huge turn-off.
I was 41 then. I had a low paying job, $8.00 an hour, WITH my won teenager at home. Her father, probably had more $$ coming in on his disability than I did with my job income.
The OP needs to stop being so ageist. If men are looking for younger women, then she needs to pay attention to the ones who are older than she is.
How am I being ageist? I said that men my own age aren't interested in me. If I was to go with a man older than me, wouldn't that make him (and me) ageist?
The older guys want the younger women...they're easier to impress and thus less intimidating
Exactly. They want an easy life and they can't handle being challenged.
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