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Men when you are dating someone (not in a financial situation) do you consider it your responsibility to finance the woman of interest? Do you feel it is your responsibility to give cash, pay bills, or provide for the family she might already have (if she has kids)?
Men when you are in a monogamous committed relationship do you consider it your responsibility to pay rent/mortgage, give a portion of your paycheck, or give cash for bills to provide for the family the woman might already have (if she has kids)?
Women, what are your thoughts and expectation when it comes to money while dating or in a monogamous committed relationship? Do you expect a man to pay your bills, why or why not?
***When answering this question please include the state where you were born and any states you resided in as an adult.
To answer the first two questions, no I do not consider it my responsibility to finance her, especially in the dating phase but also if in a committed relationship. I would never in a million years get involved with a woman who needed me to pay her bills/mortgage. That is just insane.
Why exactly do you need to know where I was born and what states I resided in? What does that have anything to do with this? I'll pass.
Women, what are your thoughts and expectation when it comes to money while dating or in a monogamous committed relationship? Do you expect a man to pay your bills, why or why not?
Why not? Why would I?? My financial obligations are my responsibility.
I've been in a long-term, committed, cohabiting relationship as an adult.
I'm now married.
In no instance have I ever expected or required that "a man pay my bills." I also never combined finances within a relationship until married. In any cohabiting relationship I've been in (be it roommate scenarios, living with an SO, or living with a spouse), expenses have been shared by both. In dating situations, the only expense-related issue that ever occurred was who pays for dates, and I always offered to pay my way on dates as a single person.
I don't expect any man I am dating to pay for anything... other than maybe his own share if we do something like go on a trip together. I have a job, a budget, and am perfectly capable of taking care of myself and my daughter. I'm an adult and I do just fine paying my own way in life and it would feel weird to have someone else step in and take over.
Why do you need to know all the states I've lived in? I'll just say I've lived in several states from the North East, to the South East, West Coast and overseas.
Men when you are dating someone (not in a financial situation) do you consider it your responsibility to finance the woman of interest? Do you feel it is your responsibility to give cash, pay bills, or provide for the family she might already have (if she has kids)?
Men when you are in a monogamous committed relationship do you consider it your responsibility to pay rent/mortgage, give a portion of your paycheck, or give cash for bills to provide for the family the woman might already have (if she has kids)?
Women, what are your thoughts and expectation when it comes to money while dating or in a monogamous committed relationship? Do you expect a man to pay your bills, why or why not?
***When answering this question please include the state where you were born and any states you resided in as an adult.
What a strange post. If you're single, that's essentially prostitution. If you're in a committed relationship, there are about a million variables that go into that decision. And it really doesn't have anything to do with what part of the country in which you've lived.
Women, what are your thoughts and expectation when it comes to money while dating or in a monogamous committed relationship? Do you expect a man to pay your bills, why or why not?
Why in the world would I expect a man I was dating to pay my bills? If in the monogamous committed relationship we're living together, both of us would fairly share living expenses, but he wouldn't be on the hook for more than that.
What the… The only man that I expected to pay all my bills, food, and shelter was my father. And my husband - but that's only after we were married and I became a stay at home mom - which we both felt was best for our family.
I grew up in California, went to school in Michigan, and now reside in New York.
What a strange post. If you're single, that's essentially prostitution. If you're in a committed relationship, there are about a million variables that go into that decision. And it really doesn't have anything to do with what part of the country in which you've lived.
This. I can't relate to the concept of bf-as-ATM-machine. Probably, you have to be a babe to pull it off, anyway. Meh.
Has anyone noticed a pattern in hatgirl's OP's, lately? They come across oddly as survey questions. Are you writing a book or doing a study, OP?
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