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Here's the thing: many men innately believe that when their female partners discuss a problem, we are looking to you to "fix" it. We're not. We just want you to listen and support us when something like this happens.
It's not your job to "make her happy again." Just be there for her.
Tell her that even though she disappointed everyone and herself this time around, in a couple years another opportunity might come up, and she is probably qualified for that! Get her donuts, everyone likes donuts.
What? Tell her she disappointed everyone and herself? That's a sure fire way to kick someone when they are down!
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Originally Posted by CapsChick
Here's the thing: many men innately believe that when their female partners discuss a problem, we are looking to you to "fix" it. We're not. We just want you to listen and support us when something like this happens.
It's not your job to "make her happy again." Just be there for her.
Tell her that even though she disappointed everyone and herself this time around, in a couple years another opportunity might come up, and she is probably qualified for that! Get her donuts, everyone likes donuts.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
What? Tell her she disappointed everyone and herself? That's a sure fire way to kick someone when they are down!
Really. Ever thought of changing your screen name to InYaFace? Sheesh!
OP, just acknowledge her disappointment. "I know how hard you work and how much you wanted that promotion."
You could even say that in the card that goes along with flowers if you decide to send flowers.
Here's the thing: many men innately believe that when their female partners discuss a problem, we are looking to you to "fix" it. We're not. We just want you to listen and support us when something like this happens.
It's not your job to "make her happy again." Just be there for her.
+1, listening, and not trying to fix is the best thing to do. Don't offer suggestions, since that isn't what she is looking for.
Here's the thing: many men innately believe that when their female partners discuss a problem, we are looking to you to "fix" it. We're not. We just want you to listen and support us when something like this happens.
It's not your job to "make her happy again." Just be there for her.
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