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I'll give the short version since I've posted on this relationship in another thread. This post is more about what Facebook might or might not be able to achieve.
I dated a girl for 3.5 months. We broke up little over a month ago but stayed Facebook friends. Other than her showing up in my news feed, there has been no contact.
When we broke up, she said I was still very handsome to her and she had a lot of respect for me. She also said I would be a good farther, which she had brought up she would be a good mother after the first time we were intimate.
So very early in the relationship she made it very clear the following things about me were attractive to her: my job (lawyer), my social status (very active and connected in the community thank god this is anonymous), my lifestyle (I had alot of success with skiing growing up and still do alot of action sports at a lake house in summer she visited and a ski resort in the winter she also visited with me), and that I come from a good family (My parents and relatives are very accomplished, and she really seemed to enjoy the time she spent with them).
Her reason for breaking up was the relationship felt forced. She told me I deserved to have a relationship that wasn't forced. I think alot of stress factors outside my control also contributed.
So what I am wondering: All the things she really like me are things that show up on Facebook. She'll see posts about work accomplishments, pictures from skiing, pictures of me in the community, pictures with my family, etc. It is possible she may have blocked me from her news feed, but I doubt it. (side note of a negative consequence is I think facebook determines who shows up in your chat box based on who you message with or in lots of photos with so everytime on Facebook there's her face right on my screen.)
Given the fact the relationship was relatively short but we were still intimate (she's Catholic and from what I could tell not very promiscuous) do you think that over time seeing me living a lifestyle she found extremely attractive will outweigh the limited negative thoughts that could possibly accumulate in such a short period of time? I feel like at some point, she might think I am living the lifestyle she would want her husband to win and the relationship was so relatively short why not give it another shot.
(Note I have not changed my Facebook use in anyway. Just post pictures at events, work accomplishments, etc. when appropriate. Have been tagged in some photos with attractive women since the relationship ended)
Definitely trying to, thanks. But you do hear stories about people who didn't work the first time that end up very happy together. So I feel like it doesn't make complete sense to totally write it off until I find someone I know is better for me. Trust me, I'm out on dates, at the gym considering girls there, or on-line looking for and asking out girls before I come here and think about the girl I have been discussing.
Trying to, thanks. Yeah, I don't know what "forced" means either. I think the only thing I could see is she felt like I was forcing myself to be attracted to her and forcing myself to make it a serious relationship too fast. Has anyone ever used the work "forced" or heard it in the relationship context?
Definitely trying to, thanks. But you do hear stories about people who didn't work the first time that end up very happy together. So I feel like it doesn't make complete sense to totally write it off until I find someone I know is better for me. Trust me, I'm out on dates, at the gym considering girls there, or on-line looking for and asking out girls before I come here and think about the girl I have been discussing.
She really does deserve someone who thinks the world of her, which you've posted before that she wasn't really up to your standards. People who make it work a second time are usually in love the first time around. This isn't the case here...and she knew that she wasn't anything special to you.
Is it possible that you can't get over her because she called it quits, and you never thought she was good enough to begin with?
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