How is it that some people are always in a relationship with a new person? (married, women)
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There are at least two large groups of people, here - men who are deathly afraid of women, who wish they could do something about it, but don't and women, who are deathly afraid of relationships, but don't know it and hop around a lot from one impossible guy to another.
You may be talking about the second group.
Are there any smaller groups, Frihed? Because I don't fit into either of these groups, and I have to tell you that I'm feeling a little neglected, here! I mean, WTH, dude!
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Originally Posted by floridarebel
Some people seem to bounce from one relationship to the next with no interval in between. One week, they're with this person, then they break up and the following week, this person is already in a relationship with a new person. These people seem to have zero problems meeting another person to be with and for some reason, this seems to be more common with women. It isn't just younger people who are like this, it even happens to people in their 30s and 40s; which is strange considering the vast majority of people in that age group are married which means the dating pool is smaller.
Personally, I don't get it. Where is it that they meet these people? Do they pop in out of thin air or something?
I don't know about you, but indeed they do pop out of thin air. I'm surrounded by millions of people. Not meeting people is harder than meeting people.
I was always in a relationship. Usually I was rarely single. Not by choice but I liked to go out a lot when I was single.
When I was single the guy next to me at work commented how difficult it was to meet a girl. Sometimes he could go 2 years between girlfriends and 3-12 months between dates.
So I ask him how many times a month does he go out to a bar or club geared towards single people. He said 1-2 times a month. I go that is a 1.5 average or only 30 times a year. So every 15 times out you get a date and every 60 times you meet a girl friend.
I then tell him on average I go out five times a week or 208 times year. I have same ratio as you pretty much but it is a numbers game.
Also my standards were pretty high unlike his. As I had the choice of maybe 14 girls to take on a date and 7 girls who wanted to be my girlfriend.
I did get him to increase his going out but he was not good at it, as soon as he met someone he stopped going out, put eggs in one basket then when that fell apart mopped for a few weeks then started again. Last I heard he was 40 and single.
OP, I think I've been wondering this since I started dating as a teenager, and that was a long time ago. And I STILL haven't been able to figure it out. In my opinion, though, I think males are somewhat more inclined to be like this, though I don't know if it's more common among older men or younger.
Having said that, I've met a couple of people recently whose mothers have been married 4 times each. Four times! Never mind the question of why would someone want to get married 4 times, but where on earth do they meet all these people that they presumably feel strongly enough about to marry, in the first place? I find it hard enough to meet ONE guy that I want to simply date, let alone commit to, let alone marry.
It's either that these people have INCREDIBLE luck, or that they rush into relationships with the first person who comes along. And I mean the FIRST person, as in, say, the person ahead of them in the checkout line at the grocery store. Yeah, you'll do. Come with me!
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Because some people can't stand to be alone. These people will almost always have a back up BF/GF should something happen to the current, or if they no longer love the person anymore, or whatever reason. Sometimes they'll just date anyone until they can float around and find the next person.
I have a cousin like this. With her, she's just very outgoing, extroverted, and friendly... men flock to her and she's always in a relationship. There are people who are afraid to be alone, but I don't think she's one of them. She has no qualms about breaking up with a man and moving on without someone waiting in the wings. But it never takes her long to meet someone because of her extroverted personality combined with her being a very social person who is always going out and doing things where others meet.
My GF is like this, she is in love with love, more so than the guys she is with.
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I have a guy acquaintance that's been married 8 times the last I saw him (a few years back).
He sees a beautiful woman and wants to possess them.
Each marriage last about 2-3 years then he writes them a big check and sends them on their way.
I've always wondered why he doesn't just date them. It would be so much cheaper.
My former roommate is like this... The day after he and his girlfriend broke up he'd be hooking up with another girl, I never completely understood how he did it.
Sadly I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum and have been single for almost a year now.
One of my neighbors, who I met about 3 years ago, is sort of like this. In the 3 years I've known her: she got married, got divorced, (a half-year later) and has had two SOs since the divorce.
But, maybe this is only strange to me, since I haven't had anything remotely resembling a girlfriend since 2008.
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